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Another Chris Brown and Karrueche Split, Airing Exes Out On Social Media

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I wonder how many times Karrueche’s name was misspelled over the weekend, I searched for the correct spelling and I still feel as though I’m spelling it wrong. Anywho, Chris Brown and Karrueche split for the 1000th time. It seems like this might finally be the end of this messy relationship, whether they stay together or not is the least of my concern. The thing that really fascinates me are people’s ability to air out their exes out so quickly on social media. 

We all go through tough break-ups and relationships sometimes take turns for the worse. Dinner dates and late nights can become ignored text messages and social media stalking, because differences do arise. Whatever the case may be you invest so much of your time and yourself with a person that you believe them to be your partner, your better half, and even your soulmate- that’s a prestigious position. It’s nothing any of us would take lightly or at least we shouldn’t. However, what happens when you guys decide to cut ties and look for refuge elsewhere? Do you de-fame(see what I did there) the very source of so much happiness and contentment, as quickly as you guys dissolve? Do you keep your decision private or air out your former lover? What would do you gain from airing them out?

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Recently, someone I cared about or had a somewhat deep connection with went to social media. I didn’t even know there was a problem between us. To be honest with you, I still don’t exactly know the real root of our demise. All I know is that I looked on my Instagram feed and saw that they were throwing more shade than a California palm tree- I looked at my phone in confusion and disbelief. Of course, they kept it classier than CB and Karrueche but their intended target audience was me. I got the message loud and clear, while I saw their followers chime in and agree on a situation which they had no factual knowledge of. That sh*t is very annoying I might add. When things like this happen you want to retaliate, state your points, refute attacks on your character and send encrypted messages of your own, but why?  Why do that when you can talk to that person directly? I prefer going to the source, hashing it out or agreeing to disagree and then making some type of pact to keep our discourse off the streets out of respect.  Though in this day and age that usually isn’t everyone’s way of handling things. I had to think about the motive for going to social media rather than talk to the person you have an issue with.

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Firstly, it’s a place to vent and get things off your chest. Secondly, people/followers that do not truly know the relationship or the person back you up, and the feeling that you get from supporters validates your actions, regardless of if you are truly in the right or wrong. Thirdly, it’s a great, public place to attack the character of that person. Lastly,  it’s a way to send messages to the person you are upset with without ever actually having to own up or interact with them directly. To me it’s cowardice, it’s a cop out, and it’s immature but who cares do whatever makes you feel alive and well.

In conclusion, I probably still will never air out an ex, friend, or ex-associate, I’ve always been a private person. I also will never engage in the act of agreeing with a clear attack on someone when I haven’t heard both sides of the story or don’t know the facts. I’ve always felt going the route of throwing shade was sucker sh*t. However and this is a big however, sometimes you have to defend your character. If someone wants to throw shade, sometimes you gotta play in the mothaf*ckin shadows. But never lose your integrity either, there are times when we stoop too low. Most times, no response is better than any response. If they really mean something to you and you care about them reach out, if they don’t want to reconcile move on. You’ll live, but not only that you’ll thrive, because your conscience is clear.

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Have you ever aired out an ex on social media? Did it make you feel better? Have you ever been aired out? Did you guys ever reconcile? Read ‘These Hoes Ain’t Loyal: Is Our Generation Afraid of Commitment’ by @MissTashaRay on theSUNK.com

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Comment(6)

  1. Sadly i had an ugly split over twitter, i didn’t have half the following I did back then otherwise black twitter would’ve went in. The thing about airing grievances online is that you’re both playing up to an audience who only care about laughing at your expense. Its like people who go on Maury

  2. Never kiss and tell publicly. Having a heart to heart A.M.A.D. session
    with your girls over a bottle of wine or chatting about your women
    problems with your boys over a card game is one thing, but putting it
    out there for your 9th grade social studies teacher to see is a whole
    different beast. Most people don’t realize that while they think they
    are airing out another person’s dirty laundry….people are actually
    looking at you and sideeye-ing YOUR laundry and your decision
    making/choosing skills. And if for whatever reason you decide to
    reconcile….you may forgive, but your 2341 followers certainly won’t
    forget. Learn how to take the “L” gracefully. ‪#‎adultActions‬

  3. I went through a bad break up recently…. I usually don’t vent my issues online but when i seen her air things out and play like she was the victim, had to get my side out. The thing I learned with airing others out on social media is that youre making a situation you can’t easily back away from. Once you go in and others on both sides chim in, it makes it hard to walk away…

  4. Thats just plain childish. I rather talk to the person one on one instead of putting people in my business. Im very private with my life probly why I dont have a facebook or any other social media crap. If I have a problem with a person I go talk to that person simply as that.

  5. I think it’s immature. I also think people put too much of their business out their for the public to see, which has created this audience of “miserable’s” read to chime in. I think most of it is done for the attention.

    I’ve never personally been attacked online, nor have I been the aggressor. However, I think on some level most people can relate to such an attack. I tend to reflect on my actions as much as I do the actions of others. If I offend anyone, especially someone who knows me well, then I would expect that individual to come to me as I would do the same.

    I don’t like BS. I can talk to anyone in a civil fashion, but when it’s taken to a level of disrespect, we can never go back. When one shows me who they are, I get it and learn from it. I can be civil after the fact but no more intimate parts of my life will be exposed….he/she is no longer worth the risk.
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    I don’t have enemies. I am respectful to everyone which typically garners respect in return.

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