This past weekend I had a date night and went to go see “Top Five.” I t was a good time, and the movie fascinated me for a few reasons. None of those reasons really correlate with this post. So maybe another time we’ll get into that. More importantly I’m here to tell a short story today. I happened to make a great impression on someone without realizing it. Once it was brought to my attention I thought it would be great to share here. Hopefully you all swing this post to the fellas you think may need it.
I bought the movie tickets ahead of time.
This is a custom for me when it comes to opening night flicks. The movie was to show at 8:00 p.m. When we reached the theater at 8 the show at the theater said it was showing at 7:40 p.m. So we ended up having to get passes for a 9:30 show. So we had about an hour to kill and I suggested that we go get some sushi. So we head over to Haru around Union Square and got a couple rolls and ordered some drinks. Her and I began to talk, shoot the shit and what have you. We casually touched on all kinds of things, real light stuff. We ended up seeing the movie on time and went on to have an enjoyable evening.
In the day that followed her and I started talking about the evening and she said some thing to me that made me laugh. She said “You didn’t ask me any creepy sex questions out of the blue.” I asked if that was something she has experienced more than she had liked. She said yes. I asked her if it was something she experienced with younger men, and she said that she has dated older men who were “creepy” that way as well.
It dawned on me that this thing isn’t age sensitive.
Maybe there are a lot of guys out there who are talking themselves out of some good situations. I told her she gave me something to say for this week. Maybe it would help to have an idea of things to talk about with women on a first date. So here’s a short list of topics that won’t make your first date your last:
1. Interests– Sounds pretty basic right? Believe it or not most of us have many interests. There’s no way that everyone knows everything that we’re interested in. This is a time to speak about interests, more importantly the ones that you share the least. There could be a lot of common ground there. This also opens the floor to talk about past experiences etc.
2. Most Embarrassing Moments – I always think that this is a lighthearted way to break the ice. When you share embarrassing experiences there is some vulnerability involved. Hopefully in turn they will want to know your most embarrassing moment. That way you all could be even and share a laugh about silly times past.
2. Passions – It’s fun to talk about passions. The more interesting thing about these conversations is what led people to feel as strongly about certain things. There’s so much depth to a conversation like this too. The idea is to keep each other engaged sharing these ideas.
3. Dating History – Ask someone about their experiences while dating. Do they have an optimistic view on dating? If they don’t ask them why. Figure out what grinds her gears and what doesn’t; at least on the surface.
4. Swap Drunk Stories – It’s always entertaining recalling drunk nights. it’s fun recalling crazy parties. Keep the date as fun as possible. Now if shorty has a bad drunk experience stemming from a sad experience then I apologize. More times than not this can turn into a thirty-five minute conversation filled with all kinds of random shit. But it’s this kind of stuff that can be a breath of fresh air for someone.
The young lady I went out with said that a guy asked her “What’s the freakiest thing you’ve ever done?” before the server poured the water! I laughed in amazement. My guy didn’t even wait till they got a little buzz going. the name of the game is to be clever. We all know what’s up. There’s nothing new under the sun. She knows you have an attraction, it’s our job as guys to be respectable and just make shit interesting. It’s an opportunity here to show our depth rather than scare someone off who could easily get you all wrong. This is no race, no one cares who you’re going after. Run your race and run it your way.
I simply wanted to give some options as to what you could touch on in conversation on a first date.
Simple things that can easily make the date more fun than it had the potential of having. This guideline may ease any angst you might have going out with anyone for the first time. It’s important to be able to be appreciated to be more than just horny dogs…they know all about that side of us. The above list isn’t all of course. Do men try to overly push sex conversations on you on a first date? What are some other first date conversations that you think would be fun and appropriate? My advice is to go with the flow. Drive with the traffic. You all will get to sex talk, I promise you. You’ll know when to exit, but in the meantime enjoy the drive. Leave some suggestions below, let’s have some fun with this.
These are my words and I make no apologies.
DamnPops is a writer on the staff at SBM: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Brooklyn born dude trying to figure out this life just like you. Come on this journey with me. Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS