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Why Men Should Enjoy The Holiday Offseason


Happy new year to everyone, and one time for Stuart Scott!

I hope everyone had an enjoyable break or semi-break. I happened to thoroughly enjoy mine minus a couple of nonsensical events. But what’s a holiday season without those right? So now we’re in January and the dust is settled. For the fellas, hopefully we can all collectively wipe our foreheads. Hopefully everyone got their “tings” or their “baes” or their ladies something that they loved. We can chill out for now, but not for long.

I’ve referenced one of my older cousins often while writing for SBM. We seem to always dissect relationships and dating from these interesting points. Many times we tend to speak about finances while dating. How much do you spend on a date, or on a gift, or maybe a bill etc. We pretty much always surmise that women can pretty much run the world. So much of our economy can be impacted by a woman’s spending. Most malls have stores geared towards women. Most holidays are geared towards women, even Father’s Day in some cases. So throughout a calendar year there are a few instances where there’s a little break.

It’s January and barring any pending birthdays for your ladies, the next thing up is Valentine’s Day.

To some is the big one! To others not so much. Nonetheless we are a shade over a month away before dazzling your lady again for another year. There will be some who say you’re supposed to do special things everyday, but most of us have 9-5’s and it isn’t realistic 7 days a week.

What’s my advice?

Start enjoying the NFL playoffs, have some very low key evenings in with your lady for a few weeks. All the while think of something to do on V-Day that your lady would supremely enjoy. I know it can amaze us sometimes how many events there are in which we’ve got to be the upstanding good partners we should all try to be. This time of year I always enjoy because I can get back to budgeting as usual.

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Before I end just one quick heads up for my NBA fans. All Star weekend is on Valentine’s Day weekend. I wrote a post in early 2014 about what I did the last time this happened. Check it out here if you might want a template on how to proceed with your evening. If you’re a New York resident you already know the city will be bananas. But pay your lady her dues first, or if she’s a sports fan, celebrate together. Any fellas ever recognize the couple offseasons in a year where there are no holidays to prepare for? How about you ladies?

I’m glad to be back and I’m looking forward to a fruitful 2015. Let’s grow, let’s work, let’s laugh and let’s listen.

These are my words and I make no apologies.

DamnPops is a writer on the staff at SBM: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Brooklyn born dude trying to figure out this life just like you. Come on this journey with me. Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS


  1. It’s really hard to change pace once the expectation is set. I would recommend never breaking the routine even for a holiday of what you’re willing to do. You’ll end up sliding on a slippery slope. I thought about this for a second and a couple things.

    1) If you spent like crazy for November and December unless you specifically come out and admit that you can’t afford to spend like that on a regular basis she will continue to expect that level of spending.
    2) Along the same lines, women rarely can tell when you’re trying to save money unless you actually SAY you’re trying to save money. She won’t pick up on it by telepathic power.

    1. I hear you on #2 lol that’s why so much of what we do as men has to be with a purpose. Including how and when we spend.

  2. “It’s really hard to change pace once the expectation is set.” No it’s not. She’s your woman, not your daughter. If you can’t afford to shower her with gifts and take her to expensive places at any given time, then you can’t do it. Let her know that and move on. No matter how good she looks and how bangin her body is, bottom line is, if she can’t deal with you not consistently showering her with gifts and taking her out all the time to all of the places she wants to go then u don’t need her. You may want her, but you don’t need her. Simple as that. Like my Caribbean friends say, “If you love me when I’m clean, then love me still when I’m dirty.” Dirty and clean aren’t meant in the literal sense of course, but as metaphors.
    Basically saying, if u love me and all up on me when im on top of the world, and got it going on, then u should still love me when I’m down to nothing and at rock bottom. Thats “Real Love.” Should not be based on what the person can do for you at any given time, but how they make you feel, if they respect you, and how they treat you. It should never be about money spent or not spent.
    Thats my 2 pennies.

  3. Setting a certain tone while gift giving is real. It might seem shallow to those who do not feel the same but it’s real. Try not to over do it. Many people grow to expect more and more or at least the same level of gifts initially given. I found this out the wrong way. Having a man state “she spoils me”, is not a compliment. I’m giving, but am a bargain shopper. I had to stop as spoiling was not my intent.


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