You’ve heard most of us writers who give our ideas on relationships speak ad nauseam about having requirements. “What do you look for in someone?” It’s all too common in conversation. I’m of the thought that seeking good chemistry should be at the top of most people’s lists. If anything, it should be at the top of those lists of those seeking monogamy.
To anyone who has experienced good or great chemistry, it’s safe to say that the feeling is addictive.
You probably don’t feel your most at peace unless you hear from or you’re around the said person. Great chemistry might help you to accept other flaws a person may have. Many women I have spoken to over the years would place the vibe they feel with a guy over their looks. Some even went as far as to say that having good chemistry actually made a person seem more attractive. That’s doesn’t seem too farfetched to me at all. I love a woman with a great personality too, but like many men we have to dig what we see as well.
Having said all this, I began to think that if good chemistry with someone might help you deal with a person’s flaws then where do you draw the line? What do you trade great chemistry in for you know? To put it simply, is great chemistry enough to make you stay?
When I write I sometimes hope to give solid ideas and sometimes advice.
I present different scenarios that I have the power to create on my own. Life doesn’t quite work like that. Life is unpredictable. Knowing this, there’s going to be more that you’ll need from your partner than just a great bond. Bonds and chemistry don’t pay the bills right? So maybe you’re looking for a great connection and someone with a job. It’s possible that you appreciate great chemistry but your person may not be good with kids. Let’s say that you want kids; sounds like a red flag. Your great connection might not make up for another requirement of yours.
Great chemistry could possibly be added to bad reasons to stay in relationships.
Some people might stay in relationships that are bad because they’re comfortable. Other people might stay because the sex is amazing. In any case what this teaches us is the same age old thing. There is more than one way to skin a cat. There’s less rules to this stuff than we think. In truth, we want it all. The name of the game is trying to get as much of the things we want in someone as possible.
It’s hard to duplicate something like a great chemistry. That’s why it might be hard for one to give up. But there is nothing worth your unhappiness in this life. If you can effect change then do so. Great chemistry can be found more than once. It won’t be the same chemistry but it still can be great. If a person shows no willingness to grow with you then it’s probably best to fall back. Like a great friend of mine once told me…you’ll get over it. How important is good chemistry to you? Have you ever been in a situation where you got along great with someone but it still wasn’t enough for you? Y’all have a good one.
These are my words and I make no apologies.
DamnPops is a writer on the staff at SBM: “I’m not a biter, I’m a writer for myself and others. ” Brooklyn born dude trying to figure out this life just like you. Come on this journey with me. Follow me on Twitter @DamnPOPS