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That Time Your Relationship Got Away From You

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The relationship ends and you’ve got more questions and fewer answers. You’re not really sure what happened. You were happy, they seemed happy but somehow the relationship ended. As you sit and start to wonder what transpired you realize that this really is a case when a relationship simply got away from you.

It can happen to anyone. The reasons why it happens may vary from situation to situation but they all come back to one central root cause and that’s that we were more focused on where we were going than actually how you would get there. You may have been focused on getting married while your significant other was focused on strengthening the relationship. You may have been focused on moving in together while your better half was trying to work on maintaining space and independence. Those are just two quick examples but there are several other examples that could be used.

We’re all different too. We have different ways. Some people are actors and others reactors. Some people are pushy and others are passive aggressive. I guess the suspicions in zodiac signs may be true. When I think about it, very few signs are compatible with power signs but Libras are compatible with them all. (It’s just extremely hard to get them to react to anything.) The point here is that your personality may not lend to your relationship and what may have started as a mutual attraction starts to create this distance that can’t be overcome.

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Sometimes, we squeeze too hard. We love too hard. While it doesn’t seem like that would be a bad thing but it ends up sabotaging the relationship because it can be too much pressure. A body of water with no restrictions does not move and stand placid. A body of water constrained does everything in its power to get out.

Most times when people are devastated in relationships it’s because they missed all the signs leading up to their partner leaving. I’ve seen it several times, he drops hint after hint but he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings so in the end he chooses to leave rather than hurt her feelings or keep living in hell. You can avoid this by listening; something that many of us struggle with. Don’t spend too much time thinking about what you want over what is needed for the situation or relationship. In order to listen, you need to be able to understand what’s being said; it’s really hard to do that when you’re thinking about a rebuttal.

In the end, if the relationship got away from you it wasn’t meant to be. That’s what the world is telling you. It may not have been meant to be because it wasn’t good for you; it may be because it wasn’t good for them. Don’t waste too much time on that. In the end of relationships it’s important to self-reflect. Don’t make the bigger mistake of going into the next relationship thinking that you did everything right and you just haven’t found a perfect match.

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  1. Libra’s compatible to all….? Maybe you know more about astrology than I do, but I don’t want a Libra to come my way. They are very reactive in my experience. Many of them in my family…. Other than that, I agree with most of what was said. No one tells us, it’s ok for a relationship to not work or if the couple is not in sync it means you’re not working. Instead so many people waste time fighting a losing battle. It doesn’t mean that individual is bad, you’re just not meant to be.

    1. Hi, I and my ex boyfriend broke up about 7 weeks now. We’ve been together for 4 years. We had so many issues during in our relationship. We got engaged and eventually he changed his mind not to get married soon and told me he doesn’t want kids. It broke my heart. He also told me that culture differences is another problem between us. When we broke up I beg many times. He told he doesn’t want to go back in to our relationship and he wants us to move on. I stayed another 2 weeks with him while I am looking for a new place. we had sex a couple times. He told me he just want us stay as friends.c
      When I moved out, he didn’t txt or call but when we each other we are fine talking like a friend. Is there anyway that i can win him back? that was the question i asked my sister and she told me he have had an encouter with the famous love doctor and i contacted him and he prayed for my relationship and my boyfriend came back to me and my relationship was restored and now we will be getting married soon. Please get to know him and ask for his help on ([email protected]). The love doctor is the best and will help you 🙂

  2. I agree with the post also. I think self esteem, and value of self worth also plays a part sometimes, particularly with women. The pressure on women from family, friends, and society to have a marry and have children also plays into this as well.
    Women tend to stay in unhealthy, sometimes even toxic relationships due to not feeling like they will find anyone better, low self esteem, fear of being alone, and pressure to marry and have children. Sadly, this is something that spans nationwide, not just in the US.

    1. Bree, I agree…I also think that we tend to associate the behavior that you mentioned with women most of the time. Truth is, plenty of men stay in unhealthy toxic relationships too for the exact same reason. Not all men, but more than enough do. The low self-esteem, fear of being alone, pressure to marry [depending on your circle] not to mention, codependency is why you see some men in bullchit relationships while every one wonders ‘why’ and ‘what does he see in her?’ – I’ve seen it too many times.

      1. J2da, I’ve heard that men stay in bad relationships for sex and companionship. Not sure if how true this is but it’s what I’ve heard and read.
        I agree with u though, men do the same. The negative connotations always seem to be directed towards women. Men aren’t called old spinsters and teased about dying alone with nothing but cats for company..lol.
        Personally though, I’ve noticed that people like myself, who have high self worth, and don’t settle tend to walk away from relationships as soon as they deem they unhealthy. We also are cool with being single for a long period of time.
        People that feel like they have to have someone around them all the time, and have a hard time being alone also tend to stay in unhealthy relationships for all the wrong reasons.

        1. Hi, I and my ex boyfriend broke up about 7 weeks now. We’ve been together for 4 years. We had so many issues during in our relationship. We got engaged and eventually he changed his mind not to get married soon and told me he doesn’t want kids. It broke my heart. He also told me that culture differences is another problem between us. When we broke up I beg many times. He told he doesn’t want to go back in to our relationship and he wants us to move on. I stayed another 2 weeks with him while I am looking for a new place. we had sex a couple times. He told me he just want us stay as friends.
          When I moved out, he didn’t txt or call but when we each other we are fine talking like a friend. Is there anyway that i can win him back? that was the question i asked my sister and she told me he have had an encouter with the famous love doctor and i contaccted him and he prayed for my relationship and my boyfriend came back to me and my relationship was restored and now we will be getting married soon. Please get to know him and ask for his help on ([email protected]). The love doctor is the best and will help you 🙂

  3. I don’t believe that anyone “desires” to be alone or without companionship. It’s entirely ok to be content being single for a myriad of reasons, but most of what I see nowadays is a of defensive mechanisms and posturing. Love is a force of nature, yet we continue to try to corral this force by insisting that we will have it ‘on our terms’ by any means necessary. Keeping many people in a cycle of being perpetually single. We look for the fault in others with the arrogance of not acknowledging our own. Yet we continue to proclaim all sorts of reasons why were single that don’t involve self-reflection and awareness.

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