So she says you don’t motivate her? You think you do, but she says it’s not the way that she wants you to motivate her. You both may be right. This is what I thought when I saw Love and Hip Hop, while Brandi and Max Boyd were in the studio. He was trying to motivate her the way, us men, usually motivate one another. He challenged her enthusiasm, he had no compassion for her excuses, and encouragement was only giving when the performance was to his standards.
However, the women we love never really respond in a positive and/or constructive way to that sort of support. It made me think how women are really the best at showing support and how we could learn a thing or two from them. This post was going to originally be called 3 Things Men Can Learn From Women on How to Show Support to the People in Our Life, but that’s a long ass title too long for a blog. So here is 3 Tips for Men on How to Give Emotional Support to the Woman in Your Life:
Words that always spoke to me was something said by Thich Nhat Hanh during an Oprah interview. Oprah asked, “The only way to end war is communication between people?” and Hanh replied “Dear friends, dear people, I know that you suffer. I have not understood enough of your difficulties and suffering. It’s not our intention to make you suffer more. It is the opposite. “, basically saying in order to end war(miscommunication) we first must understand the opposite person’s suffering.
What I took from the exchange is that sometimes when we are with a person we love or care about, it sometimes we feel we are at war with one another even when we want to help and support them- the best way we know how. Yet, sometimes we need to just stop and iterate that we recognize the challenges they face and that we want to help alleviate that suffering. Compassion and understanding can go a long way in a supporting your girl.
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