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Five Lessons Learned in Five Years of Writing
I’ve been writing online for five years. I can remember starting with Facebook notes, then a Myspace blog, then my first personal site, then my group blog, then SBM, where you find me today. I’ve learned a lot of lessons along the way, and wanted to share five of them with you. Some of your […]
The Cyclical Relationships Men Have With Their Fathers and the Lessons Learned
Over the weekend, I got it in my head to go help my father do some housework. As my father gets older, he really needs a helping hand getting things done around the yard and in the house. Last weekend’s project was to pick up some flooring from a warehouse and store them in the […]
House of Lies: An Analysis of The Multiple Lives We Lead
The world is a stage, and we are the actors. Everyone has a role to play in this story, and a script to follow. But life is the ultimate improv show, so many times we stray away from the given lines and freestyle. Sometimes, we are given a role to play, and we may not […]
Resting on a legacy: where are the next black leaders?
It’s February so that means countless Facebook statuses and tweets will remind us to glorify Black History month. They will send quotes and facts about the usual suspects (Martin, Malcolm, Thurgood, Rosa Parks etc) and celebrate that we have the shortest month of the year to celebrate generations of achievement. While this is inherently misguided, […]
Stuff Black Bloggers Say
Let’s be honest, we can’t get away from it. We’ll probably be dealing with the fad until at least the end of the month. If you guys follow me on Twitter, @DrJayJack, you know that I despise trending topics. I only get involved with a trending topic every once in a while, just to show […]
2012 is NOT Your Year – A Different Take on New Year’s Resolutions
December 31st, 2:45am. I just took my coat off, bought some drinks and celebrated life with good friends. I heard Chevy Ridin High come on, and went ape shit. That used to be my track back in the day! Suddenly, without warning or inclination, it hit me that in less than 24 hours, we would […]
14 week fitness challenge – was it worth it?
What’s good family, As any of you that follow my personal blog or have me on BBM know, I was a part of Tom Venuto’s BFFM inner circle summer fitness contest. It’s basically a 14 week contest where those who show the most change win prizes. You have to use principle’s he established in his […]
Lesson Learned At The End Of The Affair
We’d met three years prior on a day trip organized by a mutual friend. On that day we left behind whatever was going on in our real lives and let ourselves be baptismically immersed in the innocent flirtations our attraction forced us to face. An hour or so into the ride home, I put my […]
I Could Probably Never Blog About My Wife
This is going to be the last post you see from me for a long time about sex, dating or relationships. Dr. J is going to take this opportunity to quit while he still can. It’s been a great run here at SBM.org, I always thought that I was giving people a breath of fresh […]