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Founder & Creator of SingleBlackMale.org. My healthy obsession with dating, relationships, and trying to identify and address the problems of dating in Black America. I also happen to be a mean sumb*tch who likes to hear himself talk ... but I'm funny though.

The Re-Appearing Ex

Another reader looking for information and enlightenment. While I can get it started, we all know the truth will come out in the comments. Make sure to pitch in. Don’t forget to email your questions to sbm@singleblackmale.org and check out our responses to all of our reader questions by clicking here. Hello Single Black Male, I […]

She Wants A Strong Black Man! Is That Weird?

Keep the letters coming. Well written, relationship & dating focused, and in need of advice. Why wait? Send your question to sbm@singbleblackmale.org. We’ll say something, but the SBM family will say more. Hey Single Black Male, How are you? I’m a 25 year old woman, who has a great job as an engineer. I take […]

Why can’t HE just be my Friend With Benefits?

Don’t forget that you too can have your question answered by one of the SBM staff, in addition to several thousand readers by sending a short, well written and explanative question to sbm@singleblackmale.org Hey Single Black Male, I am going to get straight to the point. I have known this guy since 2011 and we’ve […]

Why do men just disappear?

When you have spent years talking, thinking, and doing relationships … you get asked a lot of questions. A LOT!  Very soon you realize something … most people have the same problems.  Today, we re-visit one of the classics … Dear SBM, I recently discovered your website and became an instant fan, I am so […]

Don’t Embarrass Yourself: Simping goes social

For those of you who have grown with me and the site, you remember “simping” and my hatred of all simps, living and dead. I wait for the day where I can freely throw around “simp” and have it understood by all, but until then … you get the definition. Simp: A man that puts himself […]

My Boyfriend Hates My Best Friend … Why?

Today, yet another edition of Single Black Mail.  Looking for advice, write in. Sure, we might have something cute to say … but the gold is in the comments. Hi my name is Jamie and I am in a very difficult situation. My boyfriend is incredibly jealous of my male bff. I’ve told him over […]

Why Does He Ask “Do You Love Me?”

Today, we have another edition of Single Black Mail, where we attempt to bestow a little bit of relationship advice (we’re not experts) from a group of guys who spend way too much time thinking about the subject. But, as always, the best advice comes from you, the family. This letter today is extra special. […]

Why Men Don’t Call After a Great Conversation

*** Admin Note *** For those who have been around long enough, you might remember a writer that actually went by the name SBM, aka Sean Blackman, aka “The engaged guy.” Well, I’ve been behind the scenes for the last few months as I finished business school, got married, moved to California, and finally started […]

Single Black Mail: How Long Do I Wait For Her To Get Over Her Ex?

We get questions from you, our readers. A LOT of questions. “Single Black Mail” is where we respond and let the family put in some thoughts too in the comments section. If you have a burning question, hit the “Contact Us” link at the top of the page.  SBM cares. I have recently started dating […]

Engaged Black Male: Sh*t Engaged Men Say

Today’s Post is a part of the Engaged Black Male Series. Now that I’m engaged (yeah … no more Single in the name) life is different.  This series takes you into the mind of a Black Man preparing for Marriage and all that it entails. First and foremost, please recognize that SBM (the entity & […]

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