Home Amir Figueroa

Amir Figueroa

The Problem with the ‘Can You Cook?’ Debate

Original Article: http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2014/10/10-responses-can-cook-thatll-shut-good/ This article sounds like someone is caught up in their feelings of being asked this question and it being a deal breaker for guy. Everyone has deal breakers…or not? Do you have any deal breakers? If so, let us know what they are, and why? It’s not always self explanatory. I don’t […]

Why Do Women Choose To Stay?

In light of the Ray Rice and Janay Palmer [Rice] intimate partner violence that took place in Atlantic City, I was personally moved to contemplate why women choose to stay. In respect for Janay Rice’s privacy and her rights as a victim SBM will not not post or link to the video nor provide pictures […]

What Constant Texting Says About the Quality of Your Relationship

Don’t you always enjoy attending events where your friends are celebrating something? Whether it’s a birthday, job promotion, job creation, newborn baby, engagement, etc. you will create a new connection with someone. Recently, I caught up with a good buddy of mine, and the conversation inspired me to share. He recalled supporting a group of […]

Protection is Sexy

When you think of protection, what are some words or key phrases that come to mind? Is” sexy” one of them? Probably not, unless you’re next to someone buck-naked and they’re whispering the word in your ear. I’ll be honest, I never thought of protection as sexy. I merely saw it as a barrier to […]

Let’s Play the Blame Game

Let’s play the blame game, I love you, more Let’s play the blame game for sure Let’s call out names, names, I hate you, more Let’s call out names, names, for sure Do you have that friend in your circle who’s a doctor, a nurse, or just overall knowledgeable about health issues? Well that’s me […]

She Didn’t Want To Date Me, Because I Was A Black Greek

  I did not emerge into the confident man I am today until after experiencing what life was like in West Africa. Not after I joined a Black Greek-lettered organization (BGLO). I have never been one of those guys to throw my fraternity around in order to scoop women. We should be judged by the work […]

Is a Title Necessary for a Healthy Relationship?

A title is not necessary for a healthy relationship, but on the other hand it is necessary for a healthy relationship. The unhealthy circumstances come to play when one person is holding back their true feelings and intentions. We call that settling. When a woman wants to have a title, but meets a man who […]

Benefits of Counseling & Therapy For African-Americans

Silence, stigma, discrimination and shame shroud many things in the Black community; particularly, mental health awareness. I know I like to handle things myself.  After all, who knows you better than yourself? However, there is nothing like having an unbiased, open ear to the story of your life. There is power in utilizing the services […]

Mr. Cee and Black Male Sexuality

  It’s been some time since DJ Mr. Cee began to open up more about his sexuality. Not that it was anyone’s business anyway, but he was engaging in “illegal” activities; in particular, soliciting transgender prostitutes for fellatio. That is the only reason his activities were made public. He could’ve been a little bit more […]

Can A Woman Help Him Be A “Good Guy” With The Fellas

It is not always easy being the good guy surrounded by an aggressive group of men, who you refer to as your boys, fellas, etc. Being the good guy makes you the perfect “take one for the team” candidate. I find it funny when I’m out with one of my good brothers—as I refer to […]