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How History Informs My View on Dating White Women

“Jim Crow laws also soon appeared, starting with the railroads. The Saluda newspaper felt they were an urgent necessity. “Give the negro justice, but for decency’s sake protect delicately constituted white ladies from contamination by being thrown in company with an inferior race,” it said. “Keep the air of our palace cars … from being […]

Everything Is Not Ok in Black America, But What’s Next?

“The group most devastated by America’s obsession with the gun, is African Americans. Although making comparisons can be dangerous, there are times when they must be noted. America has the largest prison population in the world. And of the over 2 million men, women and children who make up the incarcerated, the overwhelming majority is […]

Is “Fat” A Slur?

  Is the word “fat“ a slur or a description? This is a variation of a question posed by someone Re-Tweeted onto my timeline. The conversation that followed described the ways people who are overweight should be described; and they debated whether fat is in fact a slur.  It’s a sensitive subject, especially when you […]

How One Man Became Jaded: The Final Chapter

Click here to check out the rest of the series.  When I started this series, I was worried that by writing it I would come off as an innocent bystander who had no fault in how things progressed and ultimately ended. I definitely shouldered my fair share of deceitfulness, stubbornness and spitefulness. I didn’t include those […]

How One Man Became Jaded: Part 5

Click here to check out the rest of the series.  The next three months were a blur of fights and arguments. I became numb to a lot of the bullsh*t. I looked back at a lot of things I put up with and got progressively angrier. In hindsight, I should have just left her alone […]

How One Man Became Jaded: Part 4

Click here for the other parts of the series.  After we got back together things were going strong for a good four months before we began to hit rough patches. I can’t remember exactly what caused this particular argument, but we were mad at each other for a couple days. The fact that I can’t […]

How One Man Became Jaded: Part 3

  Click here for part 1 and here for part 2. Fast forward to the end of the summer. Classes are done and I’d gotten to the point where I didn’t fall apart when I saw my Stacey eating lunch during class with Steve. Not only did it hurt, it was embarrassing because everyone knew […]

How One Man Became Jaded Part II

For Part 1, click here. A couple weeks before I asked Stacey to be my girlfriend, we had an unfortunate incident involving Steve. Turns out the burglar that took all of Stacey’s stuff hit the entire neighborhood and Stacey didn’t have renter’s insurance. Guess who did though? Yep, Steve, who lived in the same neighborhood […]

How One Man Became Jaded Part I

(Names have been changed to protect the not so innocent) It’s general knowledge that women show their love and affection more than men; but when men fall, they fall hard. In the same breath when a man’s heart is broken, he takes it a lot harder than a woman would. Have you ever been around […]

Veterans Day

“God bless our troops.” This weekend is Veteran’s Day weekend. The actual holiday falls on Sunday November 11, 2012 this year although most people have Monday off from work (If Veteran’s Day falls on a Saturday we would have Friday off). Sunday marks the anniversary of the signing of the armistice, which ended the World […]

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