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WisdomIsMisery aka WIM uses his formal training as an internal auditor to provide objective, yet opinionated, qualitative and quantitative analysis on life, love, and everything in between. As a Scorpio, many women wish death on WIM and some have attempted to hasten its arrival. WIM is not a model, a model citizen, or a role model. See more of WIM on Twitter @WisdomIsMisery.

Street Harassment: Why are black men the main perpetrators?

Lately, a plight that I was largely unfamiliar with has dominated the discussion of many blogs and news sites: street harassment. As a man, I figured I was simply unfamiliar with street harassment, because it is largely perpetrated by men towards women. It’s also an activity I have not and do not participate in myself. […]

Men are Abstaining…from Marriage: 6 Reasons Why Men Should Not Get Married [Video]

An SBM reader recently shared a video that they came across on author Helen Smith’s book titled, Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream—and Why It Matters. If a picture is worth a thousand words, then the video speaks for itself. A brief synopsis: taking an incentive-based analysis – […]

Women Are More Superficial Than Men

I was less than surprised by these findings, since I said women were more superficial than men in 2011, but no one ever listens to WisdomIsMisery. Oh well. Enough about me and my constant need for validation and congratulation. Next time your guy heads off to Vegas or a bachelor party and you get that […]

The Best Man: The Divorcee or the Perpetually Single?

In a recent email thread, Dr.J shared the following insight: I also read an article the other day that said that post age 30 a man who has been divorced is more likely to remarry than someone who has never been married. It broke it down too. Basic takeaway was if you met someone who […]

Married is the New Single: When is a marriage really over?

Unfortunately, if you’ve played the dating game long enough you’ve probably (accidentally?) dated a married person or suspected you dated a committed/married person. You might not have any concrete evidence that they’re lying, but their actions don’t match their words. Maybe you can relate to this story. Boy meets girl. Everything is going great. They […]

You, Your Wife, and Child are Surrounded by Strangers: What Do You Do?

If you’re unaware, an interesting story has been developing recently involving several hundred bikers and one man and his family. As is the case with most stories, there’s one side, the other side, and the truth. Like always, the truth is hard to discover between the blame from both sides. The motorcyclists allege a reckless […]

Infidelity Rates May be as High as 70 percent

Anyone who has been unfaithful and then gone to couples therapy to “work on the marriage” — assuming he or she hasn’t already been given the boot — knows that the therapist probably isn’t going to take his or her side. You cheated, you’re bad, end of discussion. Yet it’s clear that with infidelity rates […]

Men DO Read and Seek Relationship Advice

Last week, MadameNoire asked the following: Do you ever wonder why there aren’t relationship books for men? http://t.co/pq7uHONmOP — MadameNoire (@MadameNoire) September 25, 2013 As a commenter said on MadameNoire.com, “men don’t seek relationship advice, they seek relations advice.” I have to agree. I think (most) men do seek advice on how to get/meet more women, but they […]

4 Reasons Why Some Women Have Sex

A lot of women who are married or are in monogamous relationships will often say that their man wants to have $ex more frequently that they feel like it. The result is that a lot of women end up having $ex even when they don’t want to. Below are some reasons that women end up […]

The One That Got Away

Brother Dr.J’s cautionary tale of when simping goes wrong inspired me to tell you guys a story too. I can relate to J’s plight of simping on a woman for far too long, but that’s not what today’s story is about. I feel J more than sufficiently addressed that topic. Instead, I want to talk […]

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