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WisdomIsMisery aka WIM uses his formal training as an internal auditor to provide objective, yet opinionated, qualitative and quantitative analysis on life, love, and everything in between. As a Scorpio, many women wish death on WIM and some have attempted to hasten its arrival. WIM is not a model, a model citizen, or a role model. See more of WIM on Twitter @WisdomIsMisery.

Miss America Nina Davuluri’s Victory Impacts Black Americans

In case you somehow missed (or ignored) the news last week, Nina Davuluri won the Miss America Pageant for 2013. I know what you’re probably thinking, “Miss America Pageant that thing still exist so what?” Well, in this instance, Miss America became the first winner of Indian-American (South Asian) heritage to win the crown. Ok, so […]

Karen vs Samatha: Is it really easier for men to find a wife?

Yesterday, two photos hit my Twitter timeline (@WisdomIsMisery) that had “other Twitter” in an uproar. This happens from time to time so it wasn’t much of a surprise. The exercise, which called for men and women to choose from two anonymous men/women based solely on their photos and vague descriptions, started off entertaining enough. That […]

20 Tips for Divorce-Proofing Your Marriage

Recently, a well-known motivational speaker separated from his wife of 16 years. Despite claiming he is not a relationship expert, Gerald Rogers decided to share 20 tips on “Marriage advice I wish I would have had…” This post went viral, eventually resulting in him being featured on numerous national media outlets. Most of his advice […]

The Princess and the Frog: Why We Stay in Bad Relationships

Last week, @MrImJustSayin shared an interesting post by another writer about why women stay in bad relationships. Although tailored towards women, I think the ingenious analogy used in the post can be applied to why both men and women stay in bad relationships. Bad relationships they often know, and aren’t afraid to share with others, are […]

Love Isn’t Enough to Keep Some Men Faithful

Q: Is it possible to love your spouse and family, but still constantly need an outside sexual outlet? A question as old as time, do unfaithful men really love their spouses and family? As usual, it depends, but in most cases, I would say yes. Some would argue that if a man truly loves his wife, […]

Maybe Most Women Don’t Really Want Equality

The fall season in gender-gap news has started early and with a bang. A study released yesterday in the Journal of the American Medical Association shows that male doctors earn over 25% more than female doctors. Why am I not surprised? There is a constant stream of stories showing gender disparities like this: that Obama gave only 35% of Cabinet-level posts […]

Having Kids Doesn’t Make Cents

Few would argue that America isn’t a capitalist society. Therefore, I guess it was only a matter of time before we began assessing the impact of choosing to have or not have children through an economic viewpoint. Back in the day, it was easy to justify why having more children made sense. As an agriculturally […]

Men Don’t Have It All Either

The baby has a heartbeat. The ultrasound shows ten fuzzy fingers and ten fuzzy toes and a tiny crescent-moon mouth that will soon let out the first of many wails. We have chosen not to find out the gender, and when the question comes, as it does every day, we say we have no preference. Ten […]

Why Women Cheat

For whatever reason, I’ve often found the explanations behind why women cheat to be far more sophisticated than why men cheat. So, when I saw that the “experts” over at COSMO had parsed the reasons down to a simple list of five, I decided to take a read. My three favorite are below. 1. Going […]

The Single Life is The Best Life

As occasionally happens, an old blog or news story begins making the rounds again and has a resurgence to “viral” status. In fact, sometimes a post I wrote in my younger years comes back from my writer’s closet to haunt the older version of myself. It happens to the best of us. This recently happened, […]

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