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A few months ago, famous actress, Halle Berry announced that she was ending her third marriage to Oliver Martinez. It didn’t take long for the bitter, misogynistic men brigade to chime in with how crazy Halle is, which is why she can’t keep a man. It didn’t take long for the women to offer some […]

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Why Everyone Doesn’t Have A Right To Know Your Personal Business

August 1, 2014 Dr. J

We’ve reached the end of a tumultuous week that saw yet again gender relations in society pushed to the brink of an all-out war. Stephen A. Smith put his foot in his mouth and then spent much of the rest of the week trying to put two fingers in his mouth to vomit his foot […]

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The Best Man: The Divorcee or the Perpetually Single?

October 7, 2013 WisdomIsMisery

In a recent email thread, Dr.J shared the following insight: I also read an article the other day that said that post age 30 a man who has been divorced is more likely to remarry than someone who has never been married. It broke it down too. Basic takeaway was if you met someone who […]

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Married is the New Single: When is a marriage really over?

October 7, 2013 WisdomIsMisery

Unfortunately, if you’ve played the dating game long enough you’ve probably (accidentally?) dated a married person or suspected you dated a committed/married person. You might not have any concrete evidence that they’re lying, but their actions don’t match their words. Maybe you can relate to this story. Boy meets girl. Everything is going great. They […]

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Infidelity Rates May be as High as 70 percent

September 30, 2013 WisdomIsMisery

Anyone who has been unfaithful and then gone to couples therapy to “work on the marriage” — assuming he or she hasn’t already been given the boot — knows that the therapist probably isn’t going to take his or her side. You cheated, you’re bad, end of discussion. Yet it’s clear that with infidelity rates […]

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20 Tips for Divorce-Proofing Your Marriage

September 16, 2013 WisdomIsMisery

Recently, a well-known motivational speaker separated from his wife of 16 years. Despite claiming he is not a relationship expert, Gerald Rogers decided to share 20 tips on “Marriage advice I wish I would have had…” This post went viral, eventually resulting in him being featured on numerous national media outlets. Most of his advice […]

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The Type of Men Most Likely to Leave You

August 12, 2013 WisdomIsMisery

A new survey conducted by stepdadding.com shows that husbands who are stepdads are twice as likely to leave their wives than husbands in traditional marriages. More than 61 percent of male respondents who said their re-marriage ended in divorce were the ones who initiated the split. These men were all part of blended families and were stepdads […]

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Why Aren’t Black Women Getting Married

July 26, 2013 Dr. J

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Right now the current state of marriage in Black America is not all that bad. It’s not great, but it’s not time to start reading last rites. I’ve told people that I rarely share my opinions on marriage because it’s a real depressing outlook that bothers a lot of people. When I tell people that […]

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Are Men and Women Living too Long for “Until Death Do Us Part”?

July 22, 2013 WisdomIsMisery

I read an interesting piece the other day on Why Long-Married Couples Split. The piece generally defines “long-married couples” as marriages that end after 20 or more years. A few excerpts from the article : The AARP Sex, Romance and Relationships Survey on the sexuality of people 45 and older found that extramarital affairs happen for only […]

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Why Do Women End Most Relationships Before Men?

June 17, 2013 WisdomIsMisery

Last week, I wrote about the fact that black men and women take longer than every other race to get married. What I didn’t touch on in that post is according to a Census Report from 2011, blacks also have the highest divorce rate (see table below). There isn’t a census study on divorce initiations by […]