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Are White Women Really That Easy?

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While most people reacted to the depiction of the aggressive black woman in the Pepsi Max Super Bowl commercial, I was actually more fascinated with the depiction of the timid white woman.  I literally laughed out loud when shorty went upside that white girl’s head with that can.  As soon it as it was over though, I knew there would be some scuttlebutt about how that black woman was depicted, and why did it have to be a white woman jogging, blah, blah, blah…

That scene may have played out in real life to some yuppie chick running through a metropolis park, but I know a lot of white girls that would have tried to trip that black chick and grabbed some hair throwing windmill punches until the cops showed up.  Go ahead…throw an empty soda can at the next white woman you see…tell me what happened…

If you ask most black women why black men date outside their race (read: white women), the most popular answer would be that they’re “easy”, followed closely by “they can’t handle a strong black woman”, which may be the cases in some instances.   But there are black women out there that are just as “easy” if not “easier” than white women.  There are black women out there that will continue to let the man in their life walk all over them, talk to them any way they damn please, and the list goes on.  Conversely, I’m pretty sure there are white women out there that roll their necks and give their opinions in Z formation, don’t give head at all or give you just enough to shut you the f*ck up, and I’m pretty sure a few of them bought Steve Harvey’s book and now abide by a 90 day rule.  So, to suggest that white women are the only ones with these problems and that black men flock to them because they can get away with sh*t that black women wouldn’t even let them think about is pretty ridiculous.  There may be some things that white women do differently in relationships that black men may find appealing, but there are lines that most women have that just can’t be crossed.

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Some men only date white women, some only date Asian women, tall women, short women, dark skinned women, men dressed as women (mostly in ATL, DC, and SF) just like women choose to only date men that make X amount of money, or are tall, short, muscular etc.  It’s just a preference.  And while it may annoy you that a black man chooses to date outside his race, it’s also foolish to fixate on a segment of the population that clearly has no interest in you.  If this same man chose to date black women, he may prefer them in a certain size, shape and color that you may not fit and he’d overlook you anyway.  So what’s really the difference?  Maybe some black men actually love nothing better than a freshly tanned brunette whose hair smells like hope Garnier Fructis.

Men are rather simple creatures, so if white women were really that much easier to deal with, black men would have run for the hills eons ago Harlem Nights style. For that matter, white men wouldn’t constantly drop them like hotcakes.  I’m tired of black women people getting up in arms about black men dating white women,  and the “can’t handle a real woman” nonsense is tired.  Maybe those of you that think white women are easy should sit down with one for coffee, exchange notes, and re-evaluate your definition of “easy.”

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Your thoughts?

Mama said, “If she can’t use yo’ comb, don’t bring her home”,

Comment(297)

  1. SBW = Strong Black Women or Single Black Women or Sad Black Women. Anyway you think of it, is the same thing.

    Black women are like competitors to their partners, and white women supporters/teammate of their partners.

    1. "Black women are like competitors to their partners, and white women supporters/teammate of their partners."

      I started to write out some long-winded response…but can you explain this a little bit more? I want to make sure I completely understand before I throw you this side-eye.

  2. Oh No, using "white women" in the title got me apprehensive… cause Idk what the comments are going to be like…

    Hmmm… I don't know if it is TRUE across the board… but white women SEEM easier to deal with… they seem approachable & nicer (GOOD for them to win that STEREOTYPE), one reason is that when you cross RACIAL lines, in alot of cases… white women would do more for me then she would for a white man…

    & even though you have to deal with different issues (like RACE, & CULTURE), it beats the bs alot of black women bring to the table

    (Bad Attitude, Children, Obesity, Diva Complex)

    and it doesn't matter if she is educated or uneducated… And the ones that are not infected with those unattractive qualities, are probably married already…

    "And while it may annoy you that a black man chooses to date outside his race, it’s also foolish to fixate on a segment of the population that clearly has no interest in you."

    That goes both ways…

    What is interesting is that the Barack Obama who lack Barack's SWAGGER types of black men, (smart, corny, nerdy, "White") are NOT wanted by most black women when they are in their PRIME years (TuPac & 50 Cents types are WAVY at that age…), only to want the BO's when they are established & successful (30s & 40s)… & then Barack remembers that LaKeisha wasn't checking for him when she was HAWT & childless… turns HER down… & Becky welcomes Barack with open arms… Enter the bitterness from BW…

    Despite all of that, black men are still marrying black women at a 90% clip… so in America IR dating/marriage is overstated… But if black women don't improve… I believe IR loving will balloon… (A WIN for more mixed babies)

    I know I shouldn't date white women just because I don't like BW behaviors, & maybe I should dig DEEP for a rare quality BW… but how long must I wait for BW to get their ish together… and actually want a high quality relationship with a BM…

    And because black women don't listen to black men's complaints with any flexibility, it makes life so much easier to hop the fence… Oh well…

    I think black WOMEN give white women, too much credit, black women are the most beautiful & sexually appealing species on earth… Only If they focused MORE on getting their intangibles together, and SUPPORT their men (& not constantly throw us under the BUS) & assist on raising our stock, (& vice versa) (supportive, feminine, mature, embracing SOME traditional values)… The WW will be a non-issue… I know it won't happen… But I want to at least let black women know why I decided to hop the fence, even though they will still complain about a man they never wanted in the first place…

    Black women are their OWN worst enemy when it comes to love & relationships…

    GoodNight

    1. Adonis,

      You're bugging fam. I feel like, maybe we need to hang out, go out for drinks or something. #NoMo. First we can go to where ever it is that you hang out, and you can introduce me to all these pregnant, fire breathing black women you're meeting. Then I'll take you to the world I live in where there are bountiful numbers of beautiful, single, supportive, career oriented, no kid having, good dome giving, black women – who also know how to hook up a good steak.

      I feel like you might NeedMorePeople. I feel like, maybe what you're experiencing is more indicative of your personality, as an individual, as opposed to the general state of black women. Are there black women like the ones you've described, sure… I just don't know that that stereotype exists in numbers worth mentioning.

      And even if they do… you're a grown man with, what seems to be, a lot going for himself. If that's what you're still attracting, you might need to readjust your swag.

      1. "Then I’ll take you to the world I live in where there are bountiful numbers of beautiful, single, supportive, career oriented, no kid having, good dome giving, black women – who also know how to hook up a good steak."

        THIS! Thank you Most! #thatisall

      2. I will concede those point…

        As far as swag is concerned… I agree… I am probably better suited for WW than BW…

        But I WISH I was bugging Most… But I pinch myself & relaize this is not a dream…

      3. And BTW, I'm glad you are the guy who is defending BW… Any guy who does that at best is "honorable"…

        But I will hold these women feet to the fire on this… I will not be a black male who enables (black) women's bad behavior…

        But I know the Wall Of Silence is better…

      4. Most, in my slightly hood performing arts high school if you hit a good high note on a solo you might have to dodge a shoe while someone yelled, "You betta SHUT UP AND SING!" It was the highest compliment.

        Consider my show thrown. Love the insight.

    2. Let me be sure I'm clear on this… You had me to come here to read that you are not so much attracted to black women because we essentially lack the character which you deem necessary for a woman?

      MY former life as an SBM regular commenter tells me to NOT go here with you. Is your real name HASANI? Do you know him? Oh lawd… I don't know if I can take it.

      Furthermore, my life experience dictate to me that you and I could get a long well. I'm pretty enough, I'm smart enough, I'm black and I believe in being supportive. Does that bring my blackness or womanhood into question? Maybe. Does it mean that you might be losing it… Maybe.

      Tell me, what about this particular post makes you feel as though you made a fool of yourself?

      1. Let me be sure I’m clear on this… You had me to come here to read that you are not so much attracted to black women because we essentially lack the character which you deem necessary for a woman?

        I think y'all make great moms BTW… I TRULY believe most BW suck at being WOMEN first… & sexual partners…

        MY former life as an SBM regular commenter tells me to NOT go here with you. Is your real name HASANI? Do you know him? Oh lawd… I don’t know if I can take it.

        Yes you can… you made it this FAR… Glad to have you aboard… I am NOT Hasani… iCant… But if I show FLASHES of him… that is par for the course… I am not THAT bitter

        Furthermore, my life experience dictate to me that you and I could get a long well. I’m pretty enough, I’m smart enough, I’m black and I believe in being supportive. Does that bring my blackness or womanhood into question? Maybe. Does it mean that you might be losing it… Maybe.

        I agree,,, You obviously are not the BW I refer to… Just don't be defending their bad behavior, don't identify with anybody who conflict with your core values… that's all… Alot of BW have issues… there are more LaToya Jenkin's than there are Michelle Obama's (but if they both be on BS… I don't want either of them…)

        Tell me, what about this particular post makes you feel as though you made a fool of yourself?

        I was being with that… The posters on here would have you think that you live on FANTASY ISLAND and have you believe that you are just making stuff up…

        #ThatIsAll

    3. Wow, I was gonna make my own comment about this but you said almost everything I was gonna say.
      The only thing I can add is…for me it started at home.. my father bounced out when I was 11.. I didn't know why.. as i got older i found out. To make matters worse every where I go I see it… but only when i t comes to sista .. with that said I had to hop that fence too. Sometimes I think about coming back but with all the shit I'm already facing out in the world as a BM…fighting a develop and a relationship with SBW…no gonna have.. don't have the time.

      P.S. A girl that don't give head can't get in my bed(regardless of race). It's about giving ..not about what your getting out of it. As men we're gonna have to do tons of shit we don't wanna do but we just suck it up and get it done… most of the time with you on are mind. Give yo dude some head damn it

    4. I'm Australian residing in Greece Bottom line, Africans here do not work. They make money from corrupting others and use white women as alibis and business partners. We are tolerant and accepting of others, but shame that these women are stupid in their own country. I would never ever date an African, they have no morals or ethics. They were raised poorly! 

  3. And white women aren't the only ones living that 'easy snatch' life. How else do we explain the rising rates of HIV in Black women and out of wedlock children made by Black women with Black men? The difference between white women and Black women is simple:

    Many (not all) Black women have 'aggressive' on lock down while (most) white women have 'passive-aggressive' on lock.

    Both groups are after the same things. But Black men can think white women are easier to deal with because they're reactions aren't like the ones most of the Black men grew up around. It boils down to how they are socialized.

      1. I'm Australian residing in Greece.Bottom line, Africans here do not work. They make money from corrupting others and use white women as alibis and business partners. We are tolerant and accepting of others, but shame that these women are stupid in their own country. I would never ever date an African, they have no morals or ethics. They were raised poorly! 

    1. I agree with your idea of Black women being just as "easy" as other women. I just want to add that the high HIV numbers in our community has more to do with us not using protection as much as our white counterparts do and little to do with us being "easier". Same thing goes for out of wedlock children. It's a protection issue, not a promiscuity issue.

      Oh and THIS:

      "Both groups are after the same things. But Black men can think white women are easier to deal with because they’re reactions aren’t like the ones most of the Black men grew up around. It boils down to how they are socialized."

      – is Truth.com! It boils down to perception.

      1. "I just want to add that the high HIV numbers in our community has more to do with us not using protection as much as our white counterparts do and little to do with us being “easier”. Same thing goes for out of wedlock children. It’s a protection issue, not a promiscuity issue.'

        Agreed. Effing without properly qualifying the peens is being done all over. But when we do it, the price is higher. It's easy for us to ignore our own safety and health to gain affections from a man. We easily accept, "What's wrong? You don't trust me? Girl I want you to have my babies."

  4. Sigh.

    We're here again?

    I will try to be polite since the streets are watching and wouldn't want be accused of being bougie, elitist, or without humour.

    Are there black women that take offense when a black man has a white woman on his arm? Yes. Is the default answer because he can't handle a strong bw? Yes. Why? Because it makes it easier to sleep at night for some. Key word: SOME.

    Most of us, don't really care. Truly. We just want a dude that will do us right (in more ways than one). Many of us want that man to be in the similar shade of chocolate.

    The problem is Black MEN who EXCLUSIVELY date White women are the ones who perpetuate the stupid stereotypes that they are easier, suck d*ck faster/better etc. I went to a Black love forum last month and a dude fully said that to my face (this his 3 bros date white women because they are easier). He tried to play it off that he didn't mean sexually, but that more effort/money has to be put forth on BW, and WW are more likely to take them out.

    I'm not angry that you have a White woman on your arm, I'm mad that you have to debase, disrespect and denounce Black Women as a means of 'justifying' your choice. Example: if you grow up in a White suburb, you become a product of your environment and learn to adapt to those around you. What makes you comfortable. A dude (my brothers are examples of this) that is always surrounded by White women, is going to gravitate towards them. That's just human nature.

    So can we stop blaming BW for (everything) and place it back on those are actually responsible for perpetuating the negative stereotypes? Last I checked, BW aren't dating WW….

    1. LOL…

      I get the whole socializing thing… But can BW EVER admit that they play some kind of role on why black women gravitate to non-black women…

      I guess not…

      And again, I have no problem with a man who dates white women, because he ain't feeling a BW program… Is when BM put up the wall of silence & stop dating BW entirely… Then maybe bw will change…

      The way I see it BM have all the leverage…

      LOL

      1. But can BW EVER admit that they play some kind of role on why black women gravitate to non-black women…

        I meant "why black men gravitate to…"

        I gotta be grammatically on point, so I won't get flamed too bad…

      2. "But can BW EVER admit that they play some kind of role on why black men gravitate to non-black women…"

        Sure, when you admit that the roles we play were in reaction to Black men driving us that way. 😉

        1. Hi Cheekie, I'm enjoying your AVI…

          Women are their OWN worst enemy when it comes to love…

          When you make poor choices in dating, YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TELL ME THAT "BOIS SUQ"… your card has been revoked…

          Most BW who use that excuse dealing with a TuPac type dude, and expect him to be Barack Obama…

          Why would date a dude who ain't sh*t expecting him to be a good human being… That is asinine…

          I want to blame men for the way they treat women, but women go out of their way to deal with these kinds of men…

        2. @Adonis,

          My point in that comment was sort of tongue-in-cheek, but it was making a point that if me saying "BM make BW go crazy" is invalid, then so is "BW make BM go to WW." How about just cutting the bullsh*t and saying that's your preference. Having to tear down one group to join another says more about you than the group you're tearing down.

          But, thanks for the avi compliment. 🙂

        3. Yea the avi is making me HOT

          Anywho… Not in all cases BM go to WW because of BW… I agree…

          But it is a CONTRIBUTING FACTOR…

          And it wouldn't be an issue if BW wasn't complaining about BM dating choices…

          You ask me why I prefer WW (cause women love asking stupid questions)… & I tell you why & you hate me for it… It is honest criticisms… And I know every who is posting understands that to some degree…

        4. "Yea the avi is making me HOT"

          Thanks so much, but ya know I have melanin, right? 😉

          "You ask me why I prefer WW (cause women love asking stupid questions)… & I tell you why & you hate me for it… "

          Well of course someone is gonna get mad if you tear them down to bring someone up. I've always been of the mind that if something is so dayum great, you wouldn't have to tear something else down to uplift it.

        5. Black Beauty is #1, that is undisputed…

          Unfortunately Black Skin, T&A is losing its importance to me…

          Character & Mentality mean the world to me… Crazy women taught me that…

          I understand where the hate is coming from… But all BW have to do is Step their game up…

          Being Stubborn, is driving you to low quality relationships and eternal singledom…

          FINE with me

        6. "… But all BW have to do is Step their game up… "

          Or we can solely focus on BM who do want us… *shimmies outta this convo*

    2. Dammit KB! I had a reply in my head and you just yanked that mofo and put it under your screen name. Stop doing that! lol

      Anyway, where do I cosign?

      I'm going to add my 2 cents below but you pretty much are saying it here. I could care less who dates what. I only feel a way when Black women are put down as a whole. Me no likey.

      1. lol. it's what i do sfg.

        break the single angry black woman stereotype one blog comment at a time… 😉

      2. I don't mind it because the quality of BW must be raised… Men have been getting bashed for 30+ years… Black Men calling out black women is a VERY RECENT phenomenon… (2-5 years can FEEL like 30+ years…)

  5. As a black woman, no actually because I would like to consider myself an open and embracing person, I don't really see a problem with the preference argument. My problem lies with men (or women for that matter) who write off segments of the population because they have some warped idea of what that "type" is like. I think people should just avoid judging a book by its cover, or putting it back even after they read a snippet and were really intrigued just because something on the outside wasn't what they were used to. Why not explore all of the great, new things love can bring. 🙂

    That comment made… I agree with the post… I know plenty of women (of multiple races, weights, interests, etc) who would probably be considered "easy" by most standards. And I have to say I often feel like a lot of black women who make comments like that (about "can't handle, etc) tend to be the same women who have been snubbed by men before–but because they were not good people, not cause of their race.

    Anywho. Good Post. I do love reading this blog.

    *disclaimer* of course I do not mean to generalize about anyone here….

  6. I swear I am going to get depressed from reading this blog! Its tiring, boring and ridiculous to have to read over and over and over everything that Black women are doing WRONG. Is there a singleblackfemale site because maybe I need to go there and read some Black Male bashing because let ya'll tell it Black women are lazy, obese, ignorant, attitude on blast with hoeish tendencies (and creating massive amounts of born out of wedlock babies…alone) and everything that we are doing is what Black men DON'T like. Like Chris Rock said "Black women have been loyal to Black men for far too long", I, an educated, beautiful, loyal, friendly and sincere Black women who is neither obese, a hoe, lazy or ready to snap someones neck off, is finally ready to agree with him. Some of you men need to look in the mirror, no, really look in the mirror, could you also be the problem??? How about you get it together and then maybe you'll attract something better?

    1. I appreciate where your anger and where it's coming from, and I'm not mad at you for it. I think it might be misplaced though. And then because that anger was misplaced, I think you started throwing low blows (blog is boring … etc) and that's kinda foul. I'm all for criticism, but, so long as it's constructive. I don't think this was constructive.

      I didn't really notice where Lex mentioned anything that black women were doing wrong. The point I took from this post was that we shouldn't assume that, whenever we see a black dude dating a white woman, that he's doing so because there's something wrong with black women.

      But, I could be wrong. Feel free to point out where you feel like the post went hard at black women though. Would love to hear your thoughts.

    2. LOL…did you type this rolling your neck and snapping in Z formation? LOL…

      I look in the mirror 50 times a day. It's.all.good.

    3. I really don't understand how you think that this blog bashes black women and I really don't see how you think there topics are boring. I have been reading for probably over a year now and I have never felt that way. The men who write on here give different perspectives of different topics and while I don't always agree with them they are always respectful to women. In fact they don't always write about women or relationships for that matter. Maybe you need to go back and re-read some posts…

  7. I honestly believe to some extent, there will always be a slight twinge when we see BM/WW relationships, especially if we don't know the background of their union. To BW, it's an affront to our race…b/c let's face it, we have bruised and fragile egos.

    A distinction has to be made when we speak of such unions. It was touched upon by some commenters.

    There are BM who deliberately and consciously choose another race due to deeper issues of self-hate or stereotypes or as a retaliation. For those BM, I truly feel sorry for them. In fact, we should be happy they are off the market. Just like the poster said, their issues alone would make them poor partners on every level. Unfortunately, that may be the majority of BM dating WW. It's obvious from their comments!

    However, the other side of that coin is that we live in an increasingly heterogeneous society…not just in the U.S. but abroad as well. We are a product of our surroundings. We will naturally be attracted to what we experience daily. For those IR, more power to them. That is beautiful love. And it's not just WW. When I lived in Korea, BM that I'm sure never checked on Asian chiks before, had a wave of Yellow Fever and were dating and marrying Korean women like never before. In fact, my ex just got married to a Korean woman in January. But he loves Black women…however, when in Rome…

    This is why I personally am attracted to White males, and now Asian males (due to my 2 year stint in Korea). Besides the 4 years that I went to an HBCU and the 7 years that I lived in Haiti, and the 2 years that I lived in ATL, every other time in my life, I have mostly been the minority. I ADORE Black men, and would want nothing more than to uplift a Black man to his full potential and to show the world what healthy Black love is all about. HOWEVER, unfortunately, Black men around me are few and far between. I find myself crushing on WM in my class, as I'm not attracted to ANY of the BM in my school. I definitely see mulatto children in my future.

    Another unfortunate, when I do "date" a white dude, the Black guys give me a hard time. Talk about a double standard! SMH

      1. Yeah, but sweetie, this is not what you have been saying.

        She didn't say she stopped dating black men because of all their "issues". She was simply saying that because she happens to be a minority in her environment, she has chosen to date outside her race to give her more options.

        If you are choosing to date non black women to expand your options… then I get that. However, the point she made is completely different from what you have been saying…

        1. I honestly believe to some extent, there will always be a slight twinge when we see BM/WW relationships, especially if we don’t know the background of their union. To BW, it’s an affront to our race…b/c let’s face it, we have bruised and fragile egos.

          THANK YOU!!! she is on point with this…

          A distinction has to be made when we speak of such unions. It was touched upon by some commenters.

          There are BM who deliberately and consciously choose another race due to deeper issues of self-hate or stereotypes or as a retaliation. For those BM, I truly feel sorry for them. In fact, we should be happy they are off the market. Just like the poster said, their issues alone would make them poor partners on every level. Unfortunately, that may be the majority of BM dating WW. It’s obvious from their comments!

          I try to holla at LaKeisha & LaKeisha, because she is not attracted to me, turns me down… no problem… She sees me with Elizabeth & now she is throwing shade (B*TCH You don't want me, but you see me with Liz & you are throwing shade…) That might be a PRE-SELECTION (women wanting what other women have) issue more than a RACE issue

          co-signed this part of the comment she made because here is where BW made utter fools of themselves… Women should stop throwing SHADE at BLACK MEN they don't want…

        2. "I try to holla at LaKeisha & LaKeisha, because she is not attracted to me, turns me down… no problem… She sees me with Elizabeth & now she is throwing shade (B*TCH You don't want me, but you see me with Liz & you are throwing shade…) That might be a PRE-SELECTION (women wanting what other women have) issue more than a RACE issue"

          You're feeding stereotypes here…why did your example have to be "LaKeshia" …a common "ghetto" black girls name? I get the point of the other people making against you. You're one of "those" black men.

  8. "Go ahead…throw an empty soda can at the next white woman you see…tell me what happened…"

    She'll try to get your info, so she can sue you for $10,000,000 in injury compensation and "discomfort, inconvenience, and mental distress" #theAmericanWay

    "Your thoughts?"

    sometimes it is a preference. but it's hard to see it as a preference when 1/3 of the males say "don't sweat it, it's a preference, another 1/3 of the males give in-depth reasons why they say (whether in jest or serious; hard to tell tone)…and the other 1/3 don't say nuffin.

    Motion to have this topic postponed indefinitely?

      1. A 17 yr old Irish chick cussed me out in front of a store for not buying her a dutch. POOF – Inspiration.

  9. I have to admit. It does bother me a little bit when I see a black man with a white woman…upon first reaction, but after that I truly don't care enough to take it beyond that…I'm not going to give the stank eye or anything…I just feel a certain type of way upon first sight and then I am cool….I don't like when black men exclusively try and date outside of their own race..it makes me feel like they may have some insecurities about themselves…it also brings to my mind the fact they he may just feel status wise…the white woman is better…because I think some black men men equate status with dating a white woman..it's like a sign of "yes I have made it"….in some instances NOT ALL…..I also understand some black men have had some rough experiences with black women and may just be tired and ready to branch out…I get that too…..I get it's who you fall in love with and all of that…but, my first reactions is always a little bit of a hurt piece when I see it.

    I don't even think it's about if the white woman is "easier"…I have not really seen how white women operate in relationships with black men firsthand…I have a white friend but she is a black woman underneath so she cannot be counted….so, I don't know if they are easier or not…I don't think any woman is that easy for a man to deal with period…we are women…we are misunderstood across the board

    Thought provoking post, RCLS.

    1. "I don’t think any woman is that easy for a man to deal with period…we are women…we are misunderstood across the board."

      Having played a bit of Marco Polo in the dating and advice game, I'd have to agree.

  10. Love this blog because it goes hard at the issues that most shy away from discussing, thank-you for that.

    I am a black woman that grew up in predominantly white neighbourhood. I have never dated anyone outside of my race, I have a preference for black men, that is MY preference only. On the flip side my brother married a white woman and let me tell you something, she fits in to my family VERY well. I come from a long line of independent, educated, dedicated, caring, cooking for your man, supporting him, giving him the good loving when the feeling hits, lover of children type of upbringing. AND we don't stand for nonsense, we are very opinionated. My brother's wife is the exact same way and THAT is why he married her. My family doesn't care that he married outside of his race because she makes him happy. This is where the discussion should focus its attention, does a WW make that PARTICULAR Black man happy? If so, who cares? If not, who cares? We need to focus more on re-building our struggling community rather than still giving 2 sh*ts about who we date…..

    #imjussayin'

  11. Promiscuity knows no color. I know this for fact. I do think black women get blamed for this stereotype more than black men do, when, the reality is, I think we're equally responsible for it. The difference is, I think with black men, the stereotype is born out of experience, and with black women, the stereotype is born out of listening to the experiences of black men, seeing a great deal of black men with white women, and then internalizing it.

    Ask most of the black men you know if they've ever been in a serious relationship with a white woman and their answer will be no. Ask those same men if they've ever slept with a white woman and the answer will be yes. There's the stereotype. If the only white women black men know are the ones we've slept with casually, it's easy to see how we come to the conclusion that their all super easy and laid back.

    I don't think that all black women get upset when they see a black man with a white woman. The ones who do, I think their upsettedness stems from a certain measure of internalization they're doing. They're taking it personally. I've never seen a married black woman get upset when she saw a black dude with a white woman. She's married and happy so no need to internalize that man's choice or preference. But if you're single and don't want to be single, when you see the swirl going on, you might think to yourself… idk.

    Just a few thoughts.

    1. "If the only white women black men know are the ones we’ve slept with casually, it’s easy to see how we come to the conclusion that their all super easy and laid back."

      Wow! When you put it like that it makes super sense. lol!

      As usual… the voice of reason

  12. Maybe @busybee was referring to when @Adonis posted this "…it beats the bs alot of black women bring to the table (Bad Attitude, Children, Obesity, Diva Complex)". That is a horrible thing to say & if you're Black your mother is probably a Black woman as are your aunts, sisters, etc. Personally, if a Black man prefers White women (especially for the reasons @Adonis listed above) then that's not the type of dude I would check for anywayz. I don't think Black dudes date White women because they're "easy" because a woman is a woman and in general us females are fairly complicated. I've never dated a White woman so I'll continue to read what the men have to say. Some of you guys are making some good points.

    1. Thanks for putting it out there sweetheart… I really appreciate the honesty and it is always welcome…

      I have a black Jamaican grandmother… 5"0" She owns a house in Brighton Beach… She does every masculine handy man thing you can think of (while my lazy a*s watches TV & eats her cooking…)… She likes to nag, and she can wear on people, But I will tell you THIS, she KNOWS how to be a woman, which really surprises me… (supportive, & submissive, she allows her men to run the show, and if there is no men in the picture, she will assume power)

      I have a functionally legally mentally ill mother, she was born in Britain (British accents are SEXY)… Now, obviously she has had a rough life, but again… she knows how to be a woman, and despite her issues, she can at least get a STRelationship if she chose…

      What I am trying to say is, when I walk out my door and look into my BEAUTFUL black women's eyes…

      I DON'T SEE MY MOTHER OR MY GRANDMOTHER…

      I see a different breed of women… (with feministic swagger) Women who will make horrible partners & wives…

      I'll be the first one to say I am deeply flawed, cause I look in the mirror and scrutinize my pimples & blackheads…

      TO find a quality black female is just as or more challenging (in NYC) than for a black female to find a good black man…

      Because the good black men get kicked to the curb for thugs, only to be desired later in life, when it is too late…

      1. to paraphrase a certain someone…

        "if you are 25 and still complaining about the (black) women in your life, you need to figure what is wrong with you that keeps attracting aint sh*t (black) women".

        *smile*

      2. "feministic swagger" umm what does that mean, there is nothing wrong with being a feminist. Just because you are a feminist doesn't mean you burn your bra and say "eff men" it means that your are proud to be a woman and will not stand for male oppression and degradation. To be a Black Feminist is to be strong, caring, uplifting and proud and there isn't a gosh darn thing wrong with that!

        1. Well my liberal UC Berkeley education could not let you get away with using feminist in a negative light, and I disagree with you, there is not just one leader in a relationship, a male or female may lead in some, or most aspects but not all. If there is a dictator in a relationship that is the leader in all aspects I would classify that as an abusive and oppressive one that is not healthy for either person involved.

    2. "Personally, if a Black man prefers White women (especially for the reasons @Adonis listed above) then that’s not the type of dude I would check for anywayz."

      Agreed, I'm not checkin for that dude either…

        1. I am turning 23 this Sunday… I am still debating whether I want to spend some of my B'Day watching Max debate on "Friend with Benefits"… (Shameless Plug) Something tells me I am going to enjoy that

          #TeamMax

          If I was 55, some people would tell me I was a bitter old fart…

          But I share of myself…, so I won't be seen as some type of troll… & to put my views in perspective…

  13. Are White Women Really That Easy?

    You tell me. It seems to me that the "easy" stereotype began with black men, and black women are just repeating what they've heard black men say about white women.

    1. "Are White Women Really That Easy?

      You tell me. It seems to me that the “easy” stereotype began with black men, and black women are just repeating what they’ve heard black men say about white women."

      lol… this is kinda true, though 🙂

      But yeah… I'm sure black women get tired of being portrayed as angry and I'm sure that white women who date black men get tired of being portrayed as "stupid" or "easy"… and not EVERY black man that has fallen in love with a white women did so because they decided to turn their back on black women. These assumptions are just NOT true.

      And anyway… white women can keep the black men who say they only date white women because they're easier to deal with… because I wouldn't want someone who says stupid ish like that anyway. So its all good. No anger from this black woman.

      However…I do think we ALL have a part in continuing this sterotype. While I do agree that black men probably started the sterotype… black women keep it going, and some white women play into it… so we ALL need to get it together.

  14. "Mama said, “If she can’t use yo’ comb, don’t bring her home” 

    LMBO! I've never heard this one before… the things black people say smh

    The way many black women think reminds me of Bill Bellamy's character in the movie "Brothers" he decided to date a white woman because he thought black woman were too difficult. Come to find out she wasn't that different. People need to stop with all these stereotypes about white women. Haven't you guys seen Snapped or heard of Lorena Bobbit?  I agree with RCLS, why do we focus so much on a population that doesn't care about us? If someone doesn't like women with natural hair I don't sweat it because obviously he doesn't want me, his lost. 

    What I do have a problem with is the black guys who think that white is right and have nothing but negative things to say about black women. 

    1. But the funniest part of that movie is when he asks her to make a sandwhich and she says "OK". And he smiles at how easy it was to get a sandwich.

      That's the lure of white women. A [email protected] that will make me a sandwhich without complainin for 10 minutes about how she aint no maid and I need to make my own sandwhich and you better do this if I make this sandwich. That's all black men want. Less hostility.

  15. Oh God…welcome to 1994! You guys were on such a roll with the last few blogs and now we're back to this sh*t again? Seriously? It's 2011, if someone wants to date outside of their race who the eff cares? If this is something that really bothers people that much, they have much deeper issues that THEY [not the IR couples] need to address.

    I'll be back when the grown ups start blogging again….

    >:0[

    1. What were you like 32 in 1994? Sometimes, just sometimes, history repeats itself, which is why two different Bush's invaded the same country. I understand this topic may bore you because you discussed it w/ El Hajj Malik El Shabbazz back in the day, and that's fine, but there are some people who weren't born in the 60's that think about these things. So unless you have something useful to say, feel free to shut the f*ck up.

      …I could blame that rant on lack of coffee, but the truth is, you annoy me, and the truth is supposed to set me free.

      1. [I understand this topic may bore you because you discussed it w/ El Hajj Malik El Shabbazz back in the day, and that’s fine]

        Boy. You Crazy

        *smhlh*

        1. Old? He's the old one…you know old you gotta be to engage Malcolm X in banter about whyched women? That's all the way back to Detriot Redd days! F*ck all that, he opened the door, so I walked right the f*ck in. I'm assuming he hasn't been back cuz his arthritis flared up, meals on wheels dropped of his lunch, or he had to get his grandkids off the bus. Either way, I have no time for eternal sphinxmen. (Scrolls, crescents or lamps either for that matter.)

      2. I understand you may not like Eddie's comment, but have some respect. You can't expect everyone to co-sign your article. Even if you felt HIS comment was disrespectful, it is his prerogative As a writer, you open yourself up to comments, whether you like it or not.

        I would have much rather you refuted his comment with an opinion as to why you felt this article needed to be written.

        And because his is older than you, more reason to have respect. He didn't curse you out. Yet, you personally attacked him on every level. This is a blog of class! Or at least I thought…

        Not a good look.

        1. No diss to Lex because I loved the post but THIS is exactly why people don't want to comment on blogs. Are you inviting commentary or not? I never understood this bully tactic by writers. "Agree with me or I'll punk you!" Eddie didn't say anything disrespectful. I aint gonna lie, I laughed but Lex's reply was over the top.

        2. SmartFox:

          You shut your mouth when you're talking to me. You know and we all know that SingleBlackMale.org encourages and appreciates discourse. Don't accuse us of not accepting negative comments on our post because you know you're wrong. Just stop it. You're jumping to a conclusion with not a leg to stand on because oft times when you visit the site, you disagree with something and we let you rock out.

          Eddie went left when he said, "I'll be back when the grown-ups start blogging again…"

          I think Charlie Murphy said it best, "First of all … you don't just slap a man."

        3. Lmao! You shut up. lolol

          And another thing…I don't rock out on your site. What does that mean anyway?

          Rude!

          And why ya'll always trying to check me? You didn't see 2 people said Lex was a meanie too? Leave me alone!

          You ain't getting no picture.

        4. I totally agree, I feel like Eddie, despite maybe saying he'll be back after the "grown-ups" start writing again, was NOT disrespectful, and that kind of an outlash (coffee or no coffee!) is totally unwarranted. And Dr J., despite respecting the fact that you were defending your fellow blogger, you also went over the line with the way you talked to SmartFox, because she CERTAINLY didn't say anything disrespectful!

          I almost didn't write this comment because of a certain trepidation of what you might respond, and I feel that bloggers causing (possible) commenters to feel that way is really, really wrong, when there's really no reason. Besides, even if I had disagreed with Eddie and thought he was rude and obnoxious, I would've still felt that an attack like that on him is unnecessary.

  16. As many people pointed out there is a difference between dating a white person and exclusively dating white people.

    I have some family members that were raised in white neighborhoods and went to white schools. Suprise, surprise they really only date other races. They don't fit in with black people so when they try to date black it never works out. I've said many times that race is culture not skin color. You can have black skin and still be white. Some parents do not like there kids dating outside the race but I'm like " You raised your child white and told him to be like white people. Now you surprised he don't date black?"

    I do think white women know what men want more than the average black women. Not sayin all black women. Just on average. For example most white women know not to cuss your man out and call him a [email protected]@t no matter how mad you get. LOL Do all black women know that? White women I think are know how to play their role a little bit better. Deep down inside all women are the same. So it's really just about playing the role. White women know a man needs to be a man. Not all black females have accepted that.

    1. "For example most white women know not to cuss your man out and call him a [email protected]@t no matter how mad you get. LOL Do all black women know that? White women I think are know how to play their role a little bit better."

      Clearly, you haven't seen 'Jersey Shore.' I mean, yeah, they're all Italian on that show, and Italians, generally speaking, are kinda right on the cusp of whiteness, but, if you insert any subset of white america the relationship dynamics are the same. I think what you're talking about are WASPs (White Anglo-Saxon Protestants) WASPs. I don't know the numbers, but I'd venture that, most times, when black men date outside of their race, they're not dating WASPs. They're probably dating Irish Catholics, Italians… etc.

    2. Black women tend to not be submissive. It's seems like it's all about power and dominance. You want someone that you can control.

  17. Maybe I'm mistaken but I think that BW mainly have an issue with BM that disparage BW or BP in general, like why do you hate yourself so much? Or the problem could be the non-1 BM with a WW that is ugly no matter what demographic views her. That would make me pause and think she must be doing something above and beyond to make that happen.

    Although WW are easier might be a gross generalization, they appear that way on my college campus. In my Partnering & Parenting class, we discussed how the AA community is usually more discreet about their hookups than their majority counterparts. I can't imagine a BW here making a PowerPoint.

    1. Again… That Self-Hating Excuse is a COP-OUT…

      Just because I prefer WW, doesn't mean I hate my mother… (Most of my fam is in England, and most of my uncles date WW, I think it is more prevalent in the UK)…

      I will ask the question again…

      When will BW admit that it is their behaviors that contribute to BM going out of his way to date WW… I'm sure their are other factors, but this is the one BW like to conveniently ignore…

      1. Adonis, stop looking to blame BW for your affinity for WW.

        If you want a WW just go for it! No harm, no foul, but stop acting like it's someone else's fault.

        1. My decisions, are my decisions… & i am responsible for them

          But I am talking about contributing factors…

          Redlady we obviously don't see eye to eye on this…

        2. Contributing factors are contributing factors.

          I have met some B.S. brothers in my life but I agree with what others have said. If you upgrade your game you will meet the type of BW you are looking for. Stop wallowing with the chicken heads.

        3. One, THERE ARE ALOT OF CHICKEN HEADS OUT HERE TO CHOOSE FROM… Good Black Women (educated or uneducated is hard to find)

          TWO… Which I'm glad you brought it up… I don't have to "upgrade" if a fat white girl will enjoy me as I am now… (I'm a chubby chaser)…

          Black women have NO leverage in getting me to step my game up… (alot of them will be single forever waiting for BM to upgrade…)

          I only do it, for me & for the women who choose me happy

      2. "When will BW admit that it is their behaviors that contribute to BM going out of his way to date WW… I’m sure their are other factors, but this is the one BW like to conveniently ignore…"

        So…I understand the point that you are trying to make… but I think its kind of far fetched… and that you are trying to be unnecessarily controversial today.

        I could see how a black man who has had a lot of bad experiences with black women could decide to venture outside of his race to find what he's looking for. But I just don't get generalizing a whole group of people based off of your experiences with a FEW black women. If thats the way the game works,I would have stopped dating black men a LONG time ago.

        However, I'm mature and educated enough to know that even though I have had some bad experiences with a FEW black men, they don't represent the WHOLE. I will never condone making generalized statements about black men the way you condone making generalized statements about black women. Its not fair… and really, the assumptions are not fact based.

        I really think that black men who blame black women for the reason why they date outside their race are silly. And childish. And probably have some internal issues that they haven't dealt with yet.

        Date who you want to date. Love who you want to love. I know I don't care. I love love… be with who you want to be with. If you and your uncles and your cousins are happy and in love with your white women, then more power to ya! 🙂

        You just don't have to put black women down in order to do so.

        1. I love it how you say a FEW black women (what is a FEW in your opinion…)

          I know there are fantastic black women… Hell some of you on commenting on this post… That is easy to see…

          However, I respectfully disagree with MOST on the fact that their are LEGIONS of date-able BLACK WOMEN…

          They are more rare than the unicorn we call the Good Black Man…

          Ms. Reluctant, If I keep digging for a GBW (while simultaneously "upgrading" my game), I will eventually find one … This is a FACT

          But I just think it is easier to go WHITE… & deal with WW issues…

          And the only reason I am "unnecessarily controversial" is because BW REFUSE to take an honest look at the dating scene and how it has come to this point between BM & BW…

          I know Idknow it all (even though I do LOL), but I do trust my grasp on reality…

          And I don't take a liking to putting down BW, hell I wish we can't talk more about what BM aren't doing,

          but when you size up the black community, I realize that the women play a bigger role in improving the community… (as Beef Bacon asserted, they are the BACKBONE)

          If it was all men's fault or even mostly men's fault, it would be much easier to fix… But that is another blogpost…

        2. I just have to keep reminding myself that you're 22 and that your whole world is going to change in the next 3 or 4 years. When you get to be 28 or 29 and good black women are playing musical chairs with you, with you being the chair, and they're all trying to sit before the music stops… your whole perspective will be altered.

          You just need to stop hanging out with us grown folks over here, because what a lot of the people on this site and others like it are experiencing is very different from what you're experiencing. You're like the middle schooler who wants to sit at the lunch table and talk about what the high school kids are talking about. You're almost there, and the experiences are sorta similar… but… there are some drastic differences.

        3. I love this comment alot… & I am in an unique place… But I will work it out (like the square root of 69)

          I hate that I get looked down upon alot because of my age, but it is a factor, so it has to factor in…

          And I realize that most of the bloggers are older & mature (which they conveniently forget that they did immature things that I would LAMBASTE them)…

          I'll leave it at that

        4. "When you get to be 28 or 29 and good black women are playing musical chairs with you, with you being the chair, and they’re all trying to sit before the music stops… your whole perspective will be altered."

          considering that i'm older than this…and i haven't experienced this…i found it, funny…in a way. i guess i have a few more years to go myself.

          Adonis…all i can say…is worry about your money and your set-up. *shrug*

        5. @ Most

          I was thinking the same thing! The only thing I would diagree with is that he shouldn't stop hanging around the older crowd on here, he should just think twice before he post comments. There's a lot of valuable things you can learn from grown folks Adonis.

      3. @Adonis

        Um, if you read what I wrote you would know that I'm not referring to a self-hate cop out. I mentioned that the issue could be with Black men who disparage Black women and Black people as a whole. If you (not you specifically) hate Black people and you're Black, Houston we have a problem.

        Listen we are the same age so I can't necessarily say you're around too many young women who haven't realized the type of men they should be after. However, in my personal experience I haven't run into the females that you speak of. Are you in school? If so, you should probably see some BW that aren't chickenheads. I refuse to believe that they are the majority, they might be more vocal but that doesn't mean that's how most BW are.

        1. " I refuse to believe that they are the majority, they might be more vocal but that doesn’t mean that’s how most BW are."

          THIS!!!

          I think this is the case with most good people in life. The ones that are making the most noise are easier to see… doesn't mean that they are worth your time though…

        2. I already addressed the first comment, I messed up on my part… I am going a 1000MPH here…

          Because I am far from the average black male… These women you speak of (I believe you BTW)

          Have Attitude

          Diva Complex (STRONG & INDEPENDENT)

          Children OOW (or just straight whoring)

          Overweight (This is coming from a chubby chaser…)

          And another issue is that alot of (black) women like to meet men when he has ALREADY established instead of helping him build the establishment… (which fairly or unfairly put them in the golddigger/jump category)

          Maybe my mothers were down with that program, but that seems to be a rarity among today's black women…

      4. ….I would really like to know where you are typing from. Because for every 'chicken head' I see on the street I can think of AT LEAST ONE BW who is the complete opposite.

        Also, it seems as if you want a BW who is "submissive" and knows her place. o_0

        I come from a community that produces women who are strong-minded, hard-working and don't take BS from anyone, including BM. Why? Because they are community of mostly single-mothers. There is a direct correlation between a lack of Black Men and the attitude of Black Women towards Black Men. When mothers have to assume the role of the male, they teach their daughters to do the same.

        There's so much more I want to say but I have to go to work. So mad because all I want to do is keep discussing. But probably for the best in the long run lol.

      5. When are Black men like you going to get over your arrogance and, maybe, admit that the problem lies with you. How typical of men like you to blame the woman…when really YOU'RE the one that seems angry and bitter toward black women.

    2. I didn't read that comment thoroughly…

      Only point, is that when BM make a disparaging statement about BW, it isn't always attributed to self-hating… Sometimes he is telling the truth…

      I am coming from the perspective that "I love black women, but alot of them be on some BS…"

      I think less of them for that…

      1. @ Most,

        I feel you but let me remind everyone that we have readers of ALL ages here. The commeting regulars may be of a certain age bracket, but the same way you try to school the youngins, im sure the "youngins" can school us at times too.

        Damn Im old huh?

        At the same time, I was precocious as a child. Always hangin with older folk to learn the tricks of the trade, so that does help

      2. Seriously Adonis, where the hell do you hang out? I am 22 as well and I know plenty of beautiful, smart, Black women with no kids….but maybe me and my friends are too much for you because we are strong and independent. Maybe you can't find a good Black woman because no one wants a man who wants a meek, timid, dependent, weak minded woman. Those women are wack and probably weak in the sack too! So you can have them cause my independent black feminist counterparts and I are only checking for strong men who can accept all of our wonderful qualities without feeling threatened.

        1. I feel you Kriola… I am not as young but I have a lil sis about 21 and her whole crew (Temple students) is full of fly women that any man would be fortunate to catch.

        2. Seriously Adonis, where the hell do you hang out?

          Hi Kriola, I like title of your Tumblr, ALTHOUGH I love my more NC-17 type of Tumblr Accounts , I'm glad you put it out there…

          I live in NYC… Queens & Brighton Beach is where I stay at (sometimes Harlem to visit mom…)

          I am 22 as well and I know plenty of beautiful, smart, Black women with no kids…. but maybe me and my friends are too much for you because we are strong and independent. Maybe you can’t find a good Black woman because no one wants a man who wants a meek, timid, dependent, weak minded woman. Those women are wack and probably weak in the sack too! So you can have them cause my independent black feminist counterparts and I are only checking for strong men who can accept all of our wonderful qualities without feeling threatened.

          This is interesting…

          The women in my hood see me as corny, white, lame… & NICE & are quick to emasculate (TURN OFF)…

          But these same women will take masculine man & take abuse, so whateva…

          So I will agree with you, I am not masculine enough for today's black woman… I am a romantic… A hopeless one… As you mentioned… women ain't on that tip…

          But if I get a car, house, job & smooth game it is AMAZING how women show up… I'm fine with that too… But I don't see how you are gonna get me to commit…

          That strong & independent feministic tip is fine… as long as you know how to be A WOMAN at the end of the day… and support her man…

          Alot of BW have problems being a WOMAN first… But they are good at being S&I (masculine traits)

          Like I said, I am better suited for WW than BW, it is what it is

          I hope you find those men that you are looking for…

        3. See… Adonis I remember we are from the same 'hood'. I believe your problem is that you grew up around girls that went to Jackson (hood) and now you think all black women are like that. My sister who is around your age went to Cardoza (not so hood) where I am sure you would have found different black women.

        4. being a strong man has nothing to do with being "macho" or "tough" it means that you are secure enough in your manhood to accept and equally strong feminine counterpart without being threatened. You can be a strong man and still be romantic, caring and kind.

          I am very capable of being a woman and supporting my man and I have no problem with taking on properly established and compromised gender roles, and frankly my Cape Verdean mother and aunts would be horrified if I did not know how to cook, keep up the house and take care of my man. None of that takes away from me being strong and independent, and it offends me that you see those qualities as masculine and negative.

          One last thing, I think that you are misjudging white women if you think that you are better suited for them as a "corny and lame" man, and if you forgot they were the ones who started the feminist movement. I have plenty of white friends (and Asian and Latina as well) and I can assure you, all woman want a strong man, who is secure with themselves and appreciates a strong woman.

        5. INTERESTING… Feminism was started by white woman… But they also hopped off and got married & went back to being women…

          Black women took up a movement that really had nothing to do with them… and it is hurting them in the Romance arena…

          And WW are not RAISED to be Strong & Independent like alot of BW are (alot of BW are raised to be single being that they some from single mothers, in the event that BM might abandon them)…

          I don't mind women wanting Strong Men, that is natural… (just don't sacrifice character…) according to the BW I meet they don't think of me as strong… so it is what it is…

        6. @Kema I am sure they are some amazing BW, out in Cardoza area…

          I am not going out my way to go find them…

          If they are looking for a "good" BM, they know how to get in contact…

          I'll deal with Becky instead…

        7. Black women did not take up a movement that had nothing to do with us, we redefined a movement to better fit us, and I am pretty sure that most of us still want to get married! Regardless of your race ALL women should be raised to be strong because weak women create weak children (men and women). I was not raised by a single mother and I am strong and independent, and my friends who were raised by single mothers do not want to repeat the cycle!

          You need to broaden your horizons and meet more Black women from diverse backgrounds, you cannot lump us all into one pile. You should consider taking an African-American/African Diaspora studies course and a Gender and Woman's Studies course, I think that you would learn a lot.

          I do not know you so I cannot judge but I think that you could use some exposure and a little more knowledge and understanding in regards to women and Black women.

          ….I gotta go get my independent woman on and study for this LSAT

  18. I'm late (yawning) I woke up late this morning. I really have no time for white women who date black men. I'm trying to get my own life/grind together. If a black man wants a white woman then that's his business. I could care less. If you want her you don't want me, but there are plenty who want me, so I really don't care.

    I'm more angry about more pertinent things. Last night I went to meet the author of a book called Getting Played: African American Girls, Urban Inequality, and Gendered Violence. Oh it was deep. I couldn't wait to meet the sister that wrote this book. In walks JODY. Seriously…JODY. Not only did Jody write this book but she got a fellowship and was actually PAID to write this book. When I asked her, "How did you get the people to open up to your white middle class, blonde haired blue eyed self?" She said — "Oh, I didn't do the interviews, I sent my African American graduate students to go into the hood and conduct those interviews."

    See, Jody got game, and I doubt her man is black but any time someone white capitalizes off of black urban inequality and gets paid for it? I catch an attitude. I know this is off topic, but I'm too busy trying to get ahead to worry about where brothers are sticking their dicks.

    1. We are the only racial community that doesn't control its dollars.

      I've argued for years that the biggest problem with the black community is that there is no black community. Seperation of poor, middle and upper class blacks means our dollars don't curculate among us….we send our dollars to other communities. As opposed to 60 years ago when we had a black wall street in Texas, Harlem in New York and Black Broadway in DC.

      So a white girl writing about black people doesn't surprise me. I'm sure some white publisher is making a ton of money off steve harvey and hill harper.

    2. "I’m too busy trying to get ahead to worry about where brothers are sticking their dicks."

      And this is why I will love RedLady til the day I die.

  19. I started reading the comments, got to Adonis' and decided I'm gonna sit this one out. Have fun! I may check back in later to see if this will reach 500 comments.

    I can't today with this. I'm good.

    1. Thanks for stepping out of the Lion's Den…

      I do better with "I Love Black Women" (I think we should make a month out of this) & "Male Improvement" Posts…

      And by the way, my human brain is more than capable to love BW deeply & think that WW are better…

      I know that is hard to fathom in 2011… I have been giving women alot of thought since 17

        1. I will deal with THAT drama when I am ready (or an accident happens…)

          But I am assuming that it is easier than you are making it out to be

        2. What I was saying is that your daughter will be at least partly black. I would love to be a fly on the wall when you explain to her why someone else is better.

        3. That's what I am saying Kema. If Adonis has a daughter all this will be instilled in her because this is the way he thinks.

          @ Adonis

          "But I am assuming that it is easier than you are making it out to be"

          So when your black little girl comes running home crying saying someone called her a fat, future baby momma with a diva complex…your response will be…

          Well, that is how black women are so they may have a point…because that is how you feel right?

          It won't be easy Adonis. Ask any IR child. The things they experience are REAL and sad and with your current logic, you will make it worse.

  20. I debated not commenting because I feel like we've had these conversations (the black community, not this website) a thousand and one times but in some cases "resistance is futile." Additionally, as a guest-writer here now it would be a mute point not to speak when I probably date more white women than anyone on staff. lol

    Given the title and subject of the post, I thought Lex presented an honest and unbiased write-up. I don't feel like he attacked anyone, black or white. Anyone who reached that conclusion came with preconceived notions or didn't read the content of the post. However, there has been much discussion on the lack of reading comprehension in the blogosphere. *cough* VSB and Tyler Perry *cough*. Moving on.

    I'm currently dating a few white women right now and my thing is I don’t find white women different from any other race. In fact, I don’t find any race of women that different from any other race of women. I've written on this on my own blog, I'd direct link but then this comment would go to spam. Visit http://www.WisdomIsMisery.com and search (upper right hand corner) "Once You Go White" if interested.

    My theory is two fold:

    1) A lot of people's so called "unbiased" views are actually pre-conditioned or internalized. You have to proactively want to overcome these subconcious biased, assuming you are even aware they exists. For example, if you get into a fight with a white woman you may simply think you're having a fight. However, if you believe that "black women are angry" and you have a fight with a black women you're going to attribute it to the fact that she's black because it justifies what you already believe. This is a proven psychology. I'm not going to go into all the details and I'm not going to fight about it because I already know it's true. Google it.

    2) – we can debate this point – I am of the belief that what we define as stereotypes assigned to various races, which in some cases do have merit, because after all, they came from somewhere, is based more so on background and upbringing. Socio-economics.

    Simply put, I've dated white women from the hood who acted more "black" than black women from the suburbs. Whereas if I date a black woman and a white woman who are both from the suburbs, they will be just as related as if I dated a black woman and a white woman from the ghetto.

    If you want to sit here and compare a black, educated woman, from a two parent home, from the suburbs and a uneducated, white woman, from the trailer parks, I believe you will see the traditional stereotypes you assign to blacks and whites will in fact be reversed.

    That's my two cents and some change.

    1. LOVE this entire comment… especially this:

      "For example, if you get into a fight with a white woman you may simply think you’re having a fight. However, if you believe that “black women are angry” and you have a fight with a black women you’re going to attribute it to the fact that she’s black because it justifies what you already believe."

      THANKYOU!!! When you make generalizations about an entire race you do so because you choose to believe the sterotypes… not because your assumptions are actually the truth.

      Thanks for this comment WIM 🙂

    2. @WIM

      Excellent. It all comes down to class, culture, etc. I see ghetto White women, ghetto Latin woman and ghetto Black women who ALL have the same vices…ALL of them. The same stereotypes one could link to Black women can easily be linked to White women. I grew up in a White neighborhood and if you ever met me, you'd probably say I "acted white" (but I cuss in patois so don't get it twisted lol) Every race has their own issues and nothing is exclusive to one. I know white women who would destroy your car and can cuss you out faster than you can blink. At the end of the day, it's the TYPE of person you want. There are many types that are amongst all races.

      1. So TRUE SFG

        I don't address Latin, Whites & Asian, because THEY ARE NOT MY FIRST CHOICE…

        White Women Are A (FAN-Tastic) Consolation Prize

        Moving on…

  21. I wouldn't say they're easier. Easy women are just easy in general. It doesn't take being a certain race to crack cheeks without much effort being put forth. I don't think I could ever see myself in a LTR with a white woman though. There are just too many cultural differences. I must say though, when you see a white woman with a black man the man is one of two types usually. Either he's a softer, kinder, gentler, nerdy-ish type of guy that black women don't check for until they get a little older and have been did in a few times. Or, he's extra thugged out and just real extra in general. I don't really fall into either category so I'm not in demand in those particular circles.

    1. Here, here Corey…this is about the most sincere post I have seen yet (beside Redlady). No one here has really even addressed the CULTURAL DIFFERENCES of BM dating WW???? That's the elephant in the room. C'mon people, it's hard enough being in a relationship with the same race, let alone outside our race. The glares, uncomfortable stares, comments and please don't act like that doesn't bother you nor never happens to you (those who date ww). It does happen and it does affect you. Hell, I just walk down the street with my white male co-workers and get stared down! Get real, the cultural differences are going to rear their UGLY heads, that's just life. Everything comes down to black and white in my interactions and conversations with wm (only been with one) and I didn't like having to always have to explain why 'black people do this or act like this or that.' Or, is it safe to go in that neighborhood? Crazy. That's borning, annoying, naive and tired and I'm not doing that in a relationship. NOT INTERESTED. Being with the WM didn't feel natural to me at all. Will never do it again.

      All I want or will ever want is a good black man, and they are out there. Remember, only a SMALL MINORITY of BM date WW, PERIOD. And no, I don't believe that number is growing, however the divorce rate definitely is between BM/WW for sure. DUHHH!!!

  22. A seriously…..the number of black men that date white women seems to be disproportionatley high among dudes on this blog. I could theorize but I won't…….

      1. I'm just sayin if you ask 10 dudes in my hood if they have every been in a serious relationship with a white girl; maybe one dude would say yes; and that is a big maybe.

        Ask that same question to 10 SMB dudes and it's like 8 out of 10.

        I would say the ratio of interracial daters to non-interracial daters is out of proportion with what a typical sample of a black male population would yeild.

        1. You are correct, that's why I laughed because I never really noticed it until you pointed it out.

    1. @IlDuce:

      "A seriously…..the number of black men that date white women seems to be disproportionatley high among dudes on this blog. I could theorize but I won’t……."

      Not sure if you're talking about commenters or writers but I guess it doesn’t matter, as I disagree with both.

      I'll be honest, no shots at you, but the whole conversation on interracial dating is over-hyped. I'm not sure why black men or black women get bent out of shape about interracial dating which MAYBE accounts for < 20% of marriages (and even less if we're only talking about black/white couples) when, as someone pointed out, 90% of black men and black women are marrying EACH OTHER, if they get married. I guess the subject just gets people excited.

      I’m just sayin if you ask 10 dudes in my hood if they have every been in a serious relationship with a white girl; maybe one dude would say yes; and that is a big maybe."

      Follow-up question: How many white girls are in the hood for your boys from the hood to even choose to date?

      Speaking for self, I date what's available to me. White, Black, Hispanic, Asian, or one of those blue aliens from Avatar. If she got a cute face and a nice body, she'll get the equal opportunity from WIM.

      *shrugs*

      1. You're right. Most of my friends are from black neighborhoods. Like 90% black. But we all went to different schools. Most HBCUs. Some to D1 schools. We all have options in adulthood. And none dates interracially. We have options now but still date black.

        I've noticed from the first times I started commenting on this site that the bloggers and readers do not have typical black male demographic characteristics. They are:

        1. middle to upper middle class

        2. private school upbringing

        3. pwi colleges and ivy league schools

        4. greeks

        I'm not sayin their opinions aren't valid. I enjoy the different perpectives. But it's important to remember that the posts on this blog are influenced by the life experiences of the bloggers which are not typical of your average black man. Heck your average black man is not a college graduate which puts me in an atypical category.

        But still to be on a site with a whole bunch of dudes that date white girls is kinda funny to me LOL.

        I half expect Anton Jackson from Undercover Brother to check in any minute now.

        http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1G4glp986Q

        1. ndercover Brother was OFF THE MEAT RACK… OFF THE MEAT RACK… White media loves promoting our stereotypes…

          I was wondering WHO THE HELL allowed this movie to make the big screen…

          OFF… THE MEAT RACK

      2. THANK YOU… Black women need to not worry about White Women PERIOD… they are not your competition…

        But sometime it is not a race issue…

        Cause if a woman rejects me & then I end up with a better looking woman a short time later… (or she finds out I am breaking her off proper…) She might want me not because SHE is white, but because I am a taken man…

        Pre-Selection 101…

        But I have read all the comments, BW will not take ANY responsibility for their contribution… or at least acknowledge that their black sista play a role

        That is a real turnoff cause it lets me know that alot of black women would rather be eternally single & unhappy & make the effort to snag a quality black man…

        WIM (Black) Men don't have to do ish, we have all the leverage… & I described on Twitter…

        So it leads me to loving BW from a distance…

        1. whoa there cowboy, hold on a bit…

          as a man, since when is a female responsible for your actions?

          you do realise not all act the same, correct?

          i want to tell you that it gets better after time…but i'm not the one that can tell you that, because i haven't seen it for myself. But i have hope. i also can't tell you that, because it's dependent on the choices you make, the females you choose to go after.

          remember we always say that if you date x amount of females, and they crazy…eventually it's telling on you, bruh.

          and it's not necessarily easy to accept blame for what others have done, there are black women that shouldn't have to take the blame for the actions of black females, just like there are black men that shouldn't have to take the blame of the actions of black males.

        2. "Agreed… I just will NOT go out of my way to find a GBW… they are like unicorns…"

          Adonis…darling, you have lived how many years, been to how many cities (lets not even say countries), tried to talk to how many black women and you make this kind of a statement?

          I can see why no black woman is checking for you, you are so negative. Like so many other commenters have said, like whomever you want to like, but please you do not know enough black women to make such statements. On behalf of truly good women everywhere, just stop. A sensible "Becky" (as you referred to them) that hears you speaking in this tone will not want to deal with you. You are too young to have such a tainted view of people.

          Happy Birthday in advance by the way. We are almost birthday mates.

        3. WN… I think people tend to over appraise themselves… so even though I consider myself a good black man, the opinion is ultimately up to the women, being that they have a say as to whether I date them… & that goes for women too… I bet if you ask anybody they will tell you how great they are… I am a realist when it comes to my greatness… and puts it in perspective…

          I believe BW are not checking for me is because I lack that masculine energy that most thugs/leaders exhibit… CHARACTER is not an issue (cause THUGS stay winning…)I have only known about the Internet Black Gender War for like less than a year, before that I thought black men were the cause of why black women were effed up… and BW could do no wrong, "n*ggas ain't ish" rants & what not…

          So, if you are a GBW, good for you… you sound like you are married… But if not I hope you find your perfect complement…

          And Also I am too honest too early… I have to sleep with the women FIRST, get her sprung, THEN be myself…

  23. @ Adonis:

    So you said…"I hate that I get looked down upon alot because of my age, but it is a factor, so it has to factor in…"

    Well… I didn't realize that you were so young… so your comments actually make a little more sense to me, now…lol.

    Yes, sometimes we do forget that we made some of the same misguided comments when we were younger. I'll admit that I used to make similar comments to you when I was in my early 20's… but thats when I didn't know better and I was choosing to be closed minded.

    Hopefully your view point will change as you get older and have more experiences. It seems like you only think that white women are easier to deal with because thats what you CHOOSE to believe. Doesn't mean its reality. Maybe when you choose to be open to think otherwise, you will see things differently.

    So… with that said. I don't know the sum total of your experiences with black women however, I can understand your frustration with the black women that you have experienced. I just want you to know and believe that there are a lot of good black women out there and that it could be just as easy to deal with them as you claim it is when you deal with white women.

    Its all about the way you CHOOSE to look at it. 🙂

      1. Adonis,

        Wow, it kinda hurts me that you feel so little about your complement…YOUR COMPLEMENT! Get it!

        If all you are running into are chicken heads than, truth be told that is what you attracting. YOU get what you give.

        I've never met you, so it’s safe to say that you haven't dated ALL black women. So….your young…you still have a lot of exploration and learning to do. Maybe YOU bring the chicken out of these women?

        The common denominator in your thoughts of BLACK WOMEN is YOU Adonis. So it is your internal thoughts/dialogue that have kept you stagnant in finding a GREAT Black woman.

        Your thoughts become your actions…so if you continue to THINK that all of us are bad apples…that is all you will get. Don’t you know the secret to life is your THOUGHTS! They determine your outlook as well as your destiny. Therefore, you may want to take a second look at your thought process and try to understand it. Because even if you find what you want in a WW, you will still have BLACK CHILDREN and I would hate for you to instill YOUR THOUGHTS into her.

        After some real self-evaluation, instead of the blame game you are playing…you may learn that there’s more life than just what you seen in your short 22 years. Your children will thank you for this. Because where it stands you are going to teach your daughter that she is a women with …how did you say it… “Bad Attitude, Children, Obesity, Diva Complex”!

        1. I love that y'all are not disputing what I am saying and attacking the peripherals…

          I totally agree about "The Secret" & "The Power Of Your Subconscious Mind" & other "Law Of Attraction" philosophies…

          That still doesn't change the fact that alot of BW are damaged goods & are of low quality…

          It is one thing is they made up 5% of the population… BUT we know that is not the case, I believe that it is in 50% – 90% category…

          GBW is a MINORITY… so in order to find her, I will have to dig, which I care not to do at the moment…

          My daughter will be FINE, cause I WILL be raising her… If black women are still of low quality by the time she s a teenager, I will tell her that & RAISE her to be a black woman of HIGH QUALITY that any quality man would be proud to have (I just gotta train her to not deal with sorry a** men, whatever color he comes in)…

          We keep it 100 in my household… while promoting the law of attraction mindset…

        2. "I love that y’all are not disputing what I am saying and attacking the peripherals…"

          I cannot change your mindset, so why argue with it? I just want to point out how it will affect your future. It's your duty to weigh those risk, not mine to weigh them for you.

          If you truly know the laws of attractions…you have answered your own issue. You are in fact attracting these chicken heads…so what does that say about you?

          I don't have to dispute what you are saying because your lens is very narrow…the world is a big place Adonis. I have enough women in my family that dispute everything you said about BW today. Have you met them…bet you haven't.

          It EASY to say what you THINK you will do for your daughter, but your thought process will dictate that. Many well-intentioned parents screw up their children that way.

        3. Agreed with the first part…

          Attracting chickenheads is one thing… I love Chicken Heads & Hoodrats… I just wish they didn't have LSE

          You are forgetting BB, Educated BW come BS too…

          I think you are underestimating my parent GAME… The best part about it is that I don't HAVE any kids before I am ready (being corny & informed helped)…

        4. And don't you think we, Black women, might be angry because we're constantly being accused, stereotyped and put down by our own race? When are Black men like you going to own up to your faults.

  24. Easy and hard are subjective terms. They're strongly dependent on perception and will power. Hard and easy are conditional, meaning black women are easy depending on their agenda, and white women are hard depending on their emotion at the time of approach…..

    …….or vice versa……

    It's difficult for me to get a woman period due to my shyness. Though I can read non verbals, I often get that overwhelming sense of uncertainty.

    It also depends on the pond I'm fishing in.

    In all honesty, white women are easy sometimes, depending on the age, their upbringing, their preference, their intentions, their emotions, the weather, the color and type of underwear they're wearing, their perception and a rainbows worth of other variables after the previous

    Black women are easy depending on the same. I give props to the author for stirring up controversy knowing that the answer is indefinite.

    I will say this, whether black women think black men believe (or know) white women are easy…..how YOU FEEL about this information matters more than the information itself. This statement (blog title) should be a standardized statement made during a date to see the reaction/response of a woman. It will tell you alot about who you're dealing with.

    I wish alot of you women were easier to catch…..in bed…..cuz the other two pillows on my bed could use a tight squeeze….I mean hug…..I mean warm head….ugh I mean….uh (looks around and walks out)

  25. I finally get it now.

    I alot of you who read this site, have a distinct sensitivity when it comes to interracial dating, or anything that even LOOKS like its comapring black women to another race.

    Brother RC wrote a post, basically asking of the origin of the "white women are easy" stereotype, and challege you not to assume. It seems some of you actually went ahead and ASSumed he was women bashing, black women bashing, and get pissed.

    Tired of that sh*t for real.

    "Take off your tunnel vision and see all things" (c) ADP Black Silence aka Cub

    1. I think that was clearly understood in the post, I think where things became inflamed was when he wrote:

      Mama said, “If she can’t use yo’ comb, don’t bring her home”,

      Which appeared to be purposely inflammatory – Just my 2 cents.

      I still never thought he was woman bashing though. I also don't care if BM date WW, really…

    2. STEREOTYPES are STEREOTYPES because their is SOME truth to it… & then the "truth" gets EXAGGERATED…

      Idk where the origin came from BTW…

    3. @streetz,

      this is your blog, so you know the writer's intent better than i do.

      but based on the title, the content of the post (i read) and the only question at the bottom (your thoughts), that is what people are reacting to.

      it's not that people are inherently angered by the notion/thought/theory of interracial dating, just that a) this topic has CLEALY been covered on your blog before (even being a semi-lurker, I know this), and it obviously IS a sensitive issue (hence some of the commentary above).

      ironically, most of the 'bashing' is coming from one of your black male readers. there have been some comments 'bashing' the post, but its more on the subject itself (a decisive issue in the Black community) being covered. its like we just can't move on from it.

      but hey, if it gets views/comments – then it can't all be bad right?

    4. Personally, I think the POST was excellent, the comments are what is inflaming the masses…and the title + racial aspect of course…

      But like Keisha said, it's creating dialogue at least, I guess…

    5. Streetz, please don't under-estimate our intelligence levels. It is NOT the post. The post was excellent. We also know how to take a joke. (shocker) The problem is certain individuals in the comments section who have their own issues are projecting them in an ignorant, generalizing fashion that is upseting the masses and consequently changing the topic within the comments section.

      Basically, some ninjas are side tracking the main point with their bullsh*t.

      Same thing with Linc's post. I got the joke, as I said I did that day. The only time I got upset (and same for Keisha) was when OTHERS were using a joke as an excuse to go in on Black women. There's a very fine line between humor and truth. Some argue jokes are just truth sprinkled with humor. It does change the dynamic of the comments section. I personally don't like topics like this. Not because I get offended anytime Black women are talked about but because I don't like people who try to tear us apart. Criticism is one thing, rants are another.

      1. The only time you can criticize black women & they accepting it, if you come off like Chris Rock…

        Everybody else is self-hating & living in fantasy island…

        Sad, But True

        1. Thats not true. Its HOW you do it.

          What if I were to say "Black men always have 50 baby mamas and are lazy, no job having cheaters and because of this black men basically suck so I'm choosing to exclusively date white men".

          WACK…right??? I'm completely ignoring the fact that there are good black men out there and I'm making them suffer because of the fact that I'm CHOOSING to date wack black men.

          However, if I were to say " The majority of my past experiences with black men have not been pleasant. I think I'm going to leave THOSE type of black men alone and concentrate more on how I can attract some of the good black men that I know are out there."

          MUCH more positive… I'm taking the responsibility to elevate my thinking and to figure out what role I'M playing in me being involved with wack black men…

          I told you before… its all about the way you CHOOSE to look at your circumstances.

          In regards to black women not being able to take criticism… not true. Criticisim is a hard pill for anyone to swallow… but being constructive is one thing. Bashing a whole group of people (a group of people, I might add… who you haven't met a MAJORITY of) is something completely different.

      2. No one is underestimating anyones intelligence, itsa trend I see with people and certain topics.

        I hear you on the commentors being the one to change the course of comments, but whne you blast the blog to make a point to the commentors (or blast the topic) thats when the differentiation ends.

        We allow freedom of speech here, and maybe similar topics come up because we still debate them and race is still an issue and prevalent in our society.

        How much you want to bet if we put "why men will always be able to put white women in their place" as a blog on this site, and we accentuated the Strong black womans characteristics, calling white women passive and timid, that there would be HELLA cosigns here.

        Still wrong right?

        Just bloggin

        1. …whne you blast the blog to make a point to the commentors (or blast the topic) thats when the differentiation ends.

          -out of the many comments, i'm not sure how many actually blasted the blog. maybe i need to re-read them all again (skipping a few of course)

          “…why men will always be able to put white women in their place” as a blog on this site, and we accentuated the Strong black womans characteristics, calling white women passive and timid, that there would be HELLA cosigns here.

          -also disagree. i dont automatically say #teamblackwoman > #teamwhitewomen. frankly, on a recent guest post, while i didnt express my opinion, was insulted on behalf of ALL women. stereotypes against one group, also hurts another. while not all men who date white women subscribe to hurtful stereotypes, clearly (based on comments above), some do. and sadly they tend to be the most vocal. and despite our better judgement, elicit the most vocal (and sometimes visceral) responses.

          frankly, the women who subscribe to these stereotypes are just as bad as the men that do. and should be called to task for it. but sadly, how men treat us sometimes pales in comparison to how we treat ourselves (and our female counterparts).

        2. Who's blasting the blog? I don't see that. Is it sensitive commenters or sensitive writers? Hmmmm…..

          If I chose to write, I'd have to know that some people are going to love it, some people are going to hate it, some are going to laugh, others not so much. If someone doesn't agree, why is it a diss to the writer? Unless they come out and say "I disagree…and Streetz SUCKS", why the hostility? You can't control what direction the comments go in.

          As far as blasting the topic? Um yeah, people may blast the topic. When you put your thoughts out there, it MIGHT offend others. If people feel offended, they will blast the post. Blogging is posting your inner thoughts online for everyone to see. You leave yourself open to interpretation.

        3. @keisha and @Smart

          I definitely respect your opinions. im FAR from sensitive when it comes to writing. I just notice certain trends and choose to speak out.

          You can sh*t on our topics and our writing all you want. Its a free country 🙂 I can also rebut.

          I didn't call you 2 out specifically for the comments I speak of, I believe in @ or dap. I just see how comments sway and change and I think it's comical.

          This blog is a social case study and evolves daily. I'm VERY proud!

          Let me go to streetztalk and do these pullups real quick. this blog crazy. lol

        4. @streetz,

          thanks.

          i dont write blogs for many reasons, so i respect those that do. i dont always agree, but that's what makes the world go round.

          have a good day!

  26. Well, I gotta say RCLS…in fear of being lampooned…that I loved this post. Between your post and WIM's comment, I really don't have much left to say… (but of course I will, cause well, <del>white bitches</del> I talk a lot…)

    To men like Adonis, that fetishize white women, and demonize Black women…please don't reproduce. You're not helping anyone. And wait, you want Black women to take responsibility in whom you choose to date? I'm confused…Black women have that power? Black women can make men date other women? Um, Keisha…could you do me a solid and make Mehcad Brooks date me? 'Preciate ya! Kthanx.

    Anyway, to RLCS, seriously, thanks for taking another angle on this much discussed topic…it was actually refreshing.

    1. L.M.A.O!!!

      Star.. you are bright shining star that bestills (be stills?) my heart.

      I'll um.. get in touch with his peoples.

    2. I know "keeping it real" goes wrong alot.. so I will be careful

      Starita, you know how I feel about you whether it is RACIALLY motivated or NOT, IDK

      Why do WOMEN conveniently forget that a MAN's main motivation to please/sleep with/impress women… & the same goes for WOMEN in getting with MEN

      Why do you think men get big houses, fly clothes & a Bentley… (HINT: It is NOT for other MEN…)

      I love BW, but I don't have to subject myself to their BS…

      I have options… I exercise them well…

      I don't want to hop the fence… But the women are NOT listening to our/my complaints & making changes… so I'm out, See you later…

      But at least I tried to reach out & tell BW what the problem is, BW pretend as if BM act independently of their existence…

      1. see, here's the thing about 'honesty/keeping it 100"

        there are times when people, in their attempt to be honest, its more off the cuff, and not cognisant of how one's words come across to other people, especially when you consider that your words have no 'tone' on the internet…

        if you claim you're keeping it 100, but you can't state your views in a manner that doesn't infuriate the opposite side (and keep in mind, the opposite side does not mean they use logic 100% of the time, nor does that mean that you, yourself, are using 100% logic in your attempt to keep it 100%) then there will be miscommunication, and probably a lack of communication.

        1. I still have to holla at you…

          My intention was to rile up the women who still don't get it…

          WOMEN will use they logical brain when they see fit… They are human being just we are…

          There are enough SIMPS out there who blindly defend BW no matter what… I am not one of them…

          I don't defend bad behavior…

          I hate it when BM don't do right by their woman (But she picked him, and went out of her way, AND she enables his behavior)

          I want the thugging to STOP (But how can you talk to someone who is getting money & getting all the girls… almost impossible if you are not a man of INFLUENCE or high social status…)

          By calling BW out, I am subject to scrutiny, that is what I signed up for…

        2. you're trying to 'rile people up'…but folks just see it as you 'lashing out'…

          miss communication.

          like i said, no one wants to take the blame for another's actions. i don't want to take the blame for Rodney running through women like Chris Johnson on the Colts D****

          so why would women (who don't do what you're talking about, and are willing to 1/2 way hear you out) want to take the blame for things some birds did?

          **** – while i acknowledge that i don't want to take the blame for others actions, i understand that as a black man, the community will hold me responsible. it is what it is, i accept it, and i understand not every other dude agrees with this line of logic…(off on a tangent.)

        3. so why would women (who don’t do what you’re talking about, and are willing to 1/2 way hear you out) want to take the blame for things some birds did?

          If a BW is on point, there is nothing to talk about… my rants don't apply to her…

          We should be getting together if she is single…

        4. but if your posts/replies are nothing BUT rants…

          then the women who it doesn't apply to..just see you as a rant-filled individual, and won't be looking to you as a potential "one"… Seewhati'msaying?

        5. (I hope I'm replying to the right thing).

          I agree with Peter Parker, the way you expressed your feelings on this post has most likely turned single BW off, myself including. Seriously, how are you gonna try to invite women to holla after you spit so much vitriol?

          This may be presumptious, but I would say that you don't know what you are doing. If so, you would most likely not be attracting the 'birds' that you do. Therefore, based solely on what you wrote your dating technique is not 'fine'.

          I want to say oh the ignorance of youth, but you are a few months older than I am so idk what to tell you.

        6. I don't mind turning BW off… It's not they are improving their stock as far as attracting & maintaining quality BM… Y'all will be better served when we talk about how great you are all or when we are bashing men…

          THe reason why my dating life will be fine is because I am willing to adapt to the women of today… But the shallow one will get d*ck & dick only, and the worthy ones will get a chance to build a high quality relationship…

          I am in no rush to have kids or have a girlfriend… But if the right women comes along I will deal with her accordingly… And I don't mind masturbating for the next 10 years Again, I/Men have all of the leverage…

  27. I'm not going to speak for other Black women as a whole but I will speak for myself and EVERY Black woman I know. lol We don't care. If it wasn't for interracial dating, I wouldn't be here. I think there are 2 problems when it comes to this topic:

    1) Loyalty – You can date Black women your entire life, choose to date a white woman and BAM! you are an Uncle Tom to some. Some may question your "Blackness" too. This is just a result of our insecurity with being a minority. Basically, we have been rejected throughout history by the majority so we want to be accepted by our own. If you're seen with another, then your loyalty is in question. This spills over into our style of dress, choice of music, knowledge of Black culture, etc. We have to do everything in our power to "represent" at all times. I don't get mad because I understand given our history in this country, this behavior is to be expected from some who <del>don't realize their free</del> lack the modern day understanding.

    Oh and btw, THIS is not limited to women. Case in point: I can tell you that I prefer Black men…always have. Something about the dark skin, broad hunched over shoulders, strong stride, etc….wooooh excuse me. But anywho, I dated a foine Vietnamese man last year for a few months. I couldn't tell you how many Black men gave me the stank eye, heckled him and would yell "Oh China man over a Brotha?" type sh*t. Yes, ya'll get jealous too. lol

    2) Disrespect – some Black men (not all) have a huge dislike for themselves and their own Black skin OR a huge dislike for their mama OR a huge dislike for Keisha who didn't give him those body pics that he wanted so they go out on a crusade of how Black women aint sh*t! "Eff ya'll. Ya'll have too much attitude, ya'll aint real and ya'll talk too much. Wha wha wha my mommy didn't hug me" type of thing. So they only go for white women and hold the door open for her while letting it slam in the Black woman's face. This is the brother we hate. This is the man that we try to sniff out. It's not that we care. It's that we don't like you. You spread your hate like poison tainting other's opinions about us. It's just bad for our stock. Yeah, some of us have attitude issues but that's another topic for another day.

    1. 1) Loyalty – You can date Black women your entire life, choose to date a white woman and BAM! you are an Uncle Tom to some. Some may question your “Blackness” too. This is just a result of our insecurity with being a minority. Basically, we have been rejected throughout history by the majority so we want to be accepted by our own. If you’re seen with another, then your loyalty is in question. This spills over into our style of dress, choice of music, knowledge of Black culture, etc. We have to do everything in our power to “represent” at all times. I don’t get mad because I understand given our history in this country, this behavior is to be expected from some who don’t realize their free lack the modern day understanding.

      I get it… But I call it LEVERAGE… Alot of BW are not attracted to WM, & vice versa… Don't kid yourself, if WM were more attractive than BM on average, BW would have BEEN hopped the fence in DROVES… REAL Talk

      Oh and btw, THIS is not limited to women. Case in point: I can tell you that I prefer Black men…always have. Something about the dark skin, broad hunched over shoulders, strong stride, etc….wooooh excuse me. But anywho, I dated a foine Vietnamese man last year for a few months. I couldn’t tell you how many Black men gave me the stank eye, heckled him and would yell “Oh China man over a Brotha?” type sh*t. Yes, ya’ll get jealous too. lol

      Good Point… I only get tight when any man is with a woman I want to sleep with & the jealousy ends there…

      2) Disrespect – some Black men (not all) have a huge dislike for themselves and their own Black skin OR a huge dislike for their mama OR a huge dislike for Keisha who didn’t give him those body pics that he wanted so they go out on a crusade of how Black women aint sh*t! “Eff ya’ll. Ya’ll have too much attitude, ya’ll aint real and ya’ll talk too much. Wha wha wha my mommy didn’t hug me” type of thing. So they only go for white women and hold the door open for her while letting it slam in the Black woman’s face. This is the brother we hate. This is the man that we try to sniff out. It’s not that we care. It’s that we don’t like you. You spread your hate like poison tainting other’s opinions about us. It’s just bad for our stock. Yeah, some of us have attitude issues but that’s another topic for another day.

      I will DEFINITELY address the bold…

      I believe SFG is referring to the almighty Adonis…

      I did ask Miss Keisha for pics cause she looked like she had a nice body…

      Then she found out my take on Most Black Women and she got TIGHT… (which I don't mind… But it is amazing how black women take offense to what other BW…)

      But in both instances, I was honest… (& an assh*le)

      I don't apologize for liking a woman's body, & I don't apologize for preferring WW over BW because of their effed up mentalities…

      This is the world I am living in, and I am making the best of it with the LIMITED information I have at the moment…

      1. I agree with your first comment. That is why I said there is a difference between someone who dates another race and someone that exclusively dates another race.

        If I dated a white girl today it would be the first one.

        But if you Tiger Woods and 100% of the girls you date are blonde, bimbos….then you have issues.

        1. Tiger Woods BTW

          http://www.eonline.com/uberblog/b158288_tiger_woo

          Ask this question, we know that Tiger grew up with mostly NON-BLACK WOMEN… but think about this

          Take away the billions of dollars & the fame… Would most black women want to date TIGER (Hint: He's corny, white, lame, nerdy…)

          Tiger Woods can't handle a Rhonda Jenkins, & Rhonda Jenkins is NOT attracted to some man who plays GOLF for a living, unless she wants to get paid

      2. I wanna be honest with you, Adonis you are too young to be generalizing women like you do. All I ever see in your posts are Black women this, White women that. You're 22. It's not a bad thing. I was young once 🙂 The problem with youth is that you lack experience. Now, I'm in no way saying I'm smarter than you just because I'm older. What I'm saying is you haven't been dating long enough to make so many assumptions. How many Black women have you dated? How many do you know? Then you have to take into account where you live. If I remember correctly, you said you're in college. College? Honey, no. You cannot generalize adult women based on your interactions with college girls. THIS IS NOT SHADE SO BACK OFF LADIES lol I'm just saying that you have to live alittle more, experience more, and then form your opinions.

        It's not that you're saying you prefer white women because you think they are prettier, etc. You are saying you prefer them because they are NOT black women and that's not a good thing. Don't run to one thing to escape another. It makes me think that your issues with black women are deeper than just dating. Take the emphasis off of women and what they can do for you. Think more about yourself, who you are, what you can offer and what you need. It seems like you're the one with the issues. We all have issues so it's not a diss but you seem angry.

        NOW…lemme jump outta big sister mode and get in loyal friend mode. YOU DON'T KNOW KEISHA BROWN. I don't care about your gchat sessions, photos etc. I'm not going to tag team you because she can stick up for herself. I will say this: You most certainly will play yourself if you're dissing Black women in the open while trying to holla at them on the sly. I would have called you out too. Don't get defensive cause you know you're wrong for that. And just because she didn't like it, doesn't mean that she can't handle the truth or is any less real. All it means is she caught you talking out the side of your neck and called you on it. Is that why you like white women? So they won't call you on your sh*t? Well, I hate to bust your bubble but any woman will call you on it.

        AND I hope, pray that you have been with atleast 1 white woman. You better not be one of them black men who trash talk black women but have never been with <del>any woman</del> a white woman a day in your life.

        1. i got nothing to add because it's been said so eloquently and PRECISELY by sfg.

          i dont have to prove myself to anyone. so i walk away from conversations that will go nowhere in coach class.

          trying to get rid of last word-itis…it's a disease y'all. pray for me. 😉

    2. I don't think it's that we want to be accepted by our own. If we see you date white we question whether you secretly want to be white. We question whether you are a racist and hate black people. We question if you hate yourself.

      Remember the history in this country….slaves were taught to hate themselves. They were taught white was superior. The master and the overseerer's assistant was typically a black man that had been given the privledges of a white man. He beat, raped and snitched to maintain his white status.

      When slaves were free the first thing we did out of self loathing was try to transform ourselves into artificial white men.

      So when we see people dating interracially we question many things about you.

      Its not about being accepted. But it's fair to say your blackness is questioned. It's fair to say there are degrees of blackness. Some people are blacker than others. If you accept my premise that race is not skin color, race is culture.

      Bet Starita is blacker then some of yall. LOL

      1. Black is a skin color, it is NOT a culture. If you travel outside of the U.S., you will see all types of Black people who DO NOT share your culture. So what type of Black are they? What about the Blacks in Europe? Or the ones in Africa? Which Black is the real Black?

        And if you want to get technical, Black is just a color. We're of African descent so we're Afro-American, etc. "Black" was a label thrown on us by Europeans.

        Don't fall into that "blackness" trap. So if I don't talk with barritone, listen to Jay-Z, etc I'm white? What is "black culture" then?

        1. Black in the context of the US is African American culture.

          In Brazil, Europe or any other land where Africans dwell there would still be an African variation of that lands culture distinct from other ethnic groups in that land. For example, Afro-Cuban music. The degree to which you emerse yourself in African culture vs the dominant culture would be your "blackness". All cultures make these judgements. I recently worked with some Native Americans that don't consider you a real Indian unless you live on a reservation. And yes, real Indians say Indian not Native American LOL

        2. Okay I sense where this is going and it's waaaay off topic so I'm going to let it go. I would really like you to define what you believe to be "blackness" in America and I'd think you'd prove my point. African culture" or what American's view as "Black" are two diff things. If you're referring to clothes, slang, etc…then that is specific to the region of the U.S. and has nothing to do with "blackness". It's so varied here, we really can't judge anyone's "blackness".

          Also, to correct you. Native Americans are NOT Indians. lol Indians are from India. 🙂

  28. "Maybe those of you that think white women are easy should sit down with one for coffee, exchange notes, and re-evaluate your definition of “easy.”"

    I personally never cared about how easy or hard WW appear. I only care that my complements won't continue to forsake their own for an easy way out PERIOD!

    You will argue and have bad days with anyone, white, black, purple, or green. The person that doesn't think this is naive to say the least.

    Black women have to be the way we are to deal with our men. Say what you want but our men are a hand full themselves, they are not easy, loving all the time, husbands and fathers that other men (white, green, blue) APPEAR to be either. Yet, we love you anyway.

    What I never understood is WHY do black women have to be brought into the conversation AT ALL when a black man wants to talk about dating a white woman? Why? Why can't he just state his reasons for dealing with THAT white woman which honestly should have nothing to do with black women period.

    RLCS knows who visits this blogs daily. You know your audience and yes this type of post will bring the comments…but what TYPE of comments do you really expect?

    The problems in our community stem from folks always taking the EASY route. Keep pressing that easy button…see where it gets you.

    1. "You will argue and have bad days with anyone, white, black, purple, or green. The person that doesn’t think this is naive to say the least.

      Black women have to be the way we are to deal with our men. Say what you want but our men are a hand full themselves, they are not easy, loving all the time, husbands and fathers that other men (white, green, blue) APPEAR to be either. Yet, we love you anyway."

      To quote the great Slimmuar Khadafi, "Word"

      "What I never understood is WHY do black women have to be brought into the conversation AT ALL when a black man wants to talk about dating a white woman? Why? Why can’t he just state his reasons for dealing with THAT white woman which honestly should have nothing to do with black women period."

      Once again, word up. That is the entire point of the whole post. There are still *some* black women out there that attempt to understand why black men keep "stepping out." And all I'm saying is, it's all case by case. You can't assume that their dating a white woman has anything to do with you. Maybe son only dated latinas for years, then switched up to white women. Has absolutely nothing to do w/ black women. The problem is, usually once a black dude gives his reasons for dating said white woman, somewhere the thought lurks that he's full of it and can't handle a real woman and he's totally full of it.

      "RLCS knows who visits this blogs daily. You know your audience and yes this type of post will bring the comments…but what TYPE of comments do you really expect?"

      1. Who the f*ck is RLCS? LOL!

      2. I know the commenters that frequent the site, but I don't know the entire breadth of our audience, so I write posts to entertain the masses, not just the frequent commenters and infrequent de-lurkers. I can assume that people who spend every second on the site might be sick of a topic, but I can't cater to what 50 out of perhaps thousands or the millions (AND MILLIONS) of SBM's readers want to hear. Not my style. That being said, I have no expectations of what kind of comments I'll receive. Y'all muhf*ckas are crazy and liable to say anything.

        1. LOL at Starita smh… Now I wanna know the Inspiration for the name Beef Bacon…

          My mother gave me my middle name… I didn't ask for it…

      1. I have no expectations of what kind of comments I’ll receive. Y’all muhf*ckas are crazy and liable to say anything.

        OMG… CTFU from my Laptop…

        In summary most BW complaints are BS when you investigate them…

        & BW hold the key to getting the BC out of its current situation…

  29. *Throws hooks for this post*

    I really don't have anything fresh to add. I will say that I've enjoyed the diversity of content and commenter perspectives this week. Yall got me scribbling down topic ideas in a notepad.lol.

  30. When I was growing up, football and basketball didn't work for me. I wasn't big, and I wasn't tall. At all. In fact, if you believe that God doesn't answer prayers, I was 5'0 entering HS, 5'4 entering college, and i'm 5'9" now. So growing up, football and basketball were very hard sports for me to learn and play. Of course some of this had to do with the fact that no one ever picked me so I never got to practice, and even when picked I was given strict instructions, "Do not shoot the ball."

    From age 4, I played baseball. It came easy to me, I was fast, and had excellent hand & eye coordination. Now, I was teased a lot for being the kid who was running to baseball practice instead of football or basketball practice. Baseball was for whimps. (Even though baseball players are the highest paid players in professional sports.) And as a "Black" man, I knew that it was odd that baseball came easier to me than the other two sports. I had to make a choice, either continue to bang my head against the wall praying to God to make me taller or bigger, or accept what came easy to me.

    Sometimes what comes easy to a person, doesn't make it easy, it just works better for them.

    1. I can see that! The problem is most guys will not just say that basketball and football were just not their thing. Instead they will bad mouth the other two sports.

      And you know football fans are hardcore!

      1. When I played football…if the coach got mad he would say "Go play soccer!" That was an insult.

        Looking back now….you got every dude in the hood trying to play football and basketball when there is also

        baseball

        hockey

        soccer

        rugby

        swimming

        black people should be running all these sports and making tons of money

    2. Even worse, if I knew how much money I could have made playing soccer oversears I would have stuck with it.

  31. “feministic swagger” umm what does that mean, there is nothing wrong with being a feminist. Just because you are a feminist doesn’t mean you burn your bra and say “eff men” it means that your are proud to be a woman and will not stand for male oppression and degradation. To be a Black Feminist is to be strong, caring, uplifting and proud and there isn’t a gosh darn thing wrong with that!

    Let's see if we can get on the same page on this one

    Feminism maybe the wrong word… Because if we go by feminism in the dictionary, I agree with you (to a point…)

    In a relationship their can only be one leader… and that is usually a man… alot of S&I BW have a tough time allow men to lead in a relationship… I don't want to deal with that type of stress…

    1. my comment above was supposed to be down here:

      Well my liberal UC Berkeley education could not let you get away with using feminist in a negative light, and I disagree with you, there is not just one leader in a relationship, a male or female may lead in some, or most aspects but not all. If there is a dictator in a relationship that is the leader in all aspects I would classify that as an abusive and oppressive one that is not healthy for either person involved.

    2. There was a study done on the term feminist to show how women argue and fight. The thesis is that when women are fighting for something, they usually end up fighting each other and from afar look rather "odd."

      They examined the word feminist. And when it came out, women wanted to be called feminist. But now, most women do not like this term, they think it's NOT the way they want to be described.

      To men, this is confusing. Do you want to be a feminist, or do you not want to be a feminist?

      1. Dr. J, I am not sure where you are going with this… But check it…

        fem·i·nism

           /ˈfɛməˌnɪzəm/ [fem-uh-niz-uhm]

        –noun

        1.

        the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.

        2.

        ( sometimes initial capital letter ) an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women.

        3.

        feminine character.

        If we are talking about feminism in its denotation then YES, I understand and I am all for it…

        But Feminism in it connotation (what people think of when the word comes to mind…)

        I think Man-hating, lesbian, radical. undermining Male Leadership, Diva Complex, Strong & Independent, 50/50…

        And most relationship FAIL when women try to bring this attitude in a relationship… Women end up getting the short stick… (Men do in child support & divorce court) They sacrifice their families in the name in the name of this ideology…

        Feminism has a lot of radical elements to it… (I need to do more research)

        1. I'm taking a Black Feminist Thought class and I just finished reading bell hooks 'from margin to center' I believe everyone should read this book before they go around commenting on what they think it means to be a feminist. There is two kind of feminism: white bourgeois feminism and black feminism. White bourgeois see themselves as feminist while black women see themselves as advocates for feminism.

          I do not see myself as a feminist. I see myself as an advocate for feminism. The difference between being a feminist and advocating for feminism; is that feminist chooses a single identity to identify with, while advocates for feminism choose an inclusive approach. This approach applies to me as Black woman because I'm not choosing my gender, race or class over each other.

          Feminism is not about gaining equality with men (especially black feminism) because we would never be equal with them when you take into account the role race, class and gender plays. Feminism is about ending oppression and domination of racism, sexism and classism.

          This is my definition of what it means to be an advocate for feminism. And I’m not attacking anyone.

      2. I think that some women do not have a clear understanding on its meaning and being a feminist has gotten a bad rep. Some associate it with lesbian hippies who don't need a man, others associate it with strong women who want equal rights. I think before you ask whether or not someone wants to be a feminist you need to figure out what it means to them.

        I only embrace the positive associations with the word, therefore, I am a feminist!

  32. I'm sensing some ageism going on here. #thatisall

    Oh, and SFG is right about how BM (in general, obviously not every single one) respond to BW/WM (or any other race) relationships. How about next time we have a talk about interracial relationships, we address that side of things? I guess that wasn't all. *shrugs*

  33. I wanna be honest with you, Adonis you are too young to be generalizing women like you do. All I ever see in your posts are Black women this, White women that. You’re 22. It’s not a bad thing. I was young once 🙂 The problem with youth is that you lack experience. Now, I’m in no way saying I’m smarter than you just because I’m older. What I’m saying is you haven’t been dating long enough to make so many assumptions. How many Black women have you dated? How many do you know? Then you have to take into account where you live. If I remember correctly, you said you’re in college. College? Honey, no. You cannot generalize adult women based on your interactions with college girls. THIS IS NOT SHADE SO BACK OFF LADIES lol I’m just saying that you have to live alittle more, experience more, and then form your opinions.

    I think generalizing isn't good at any age… I do lack experiences… I actually learn from other people's experiences… I have not dated alot… (but the last three sexual experiences were with black women, I don't keep my sexual experience on SPEED DIAL) And I know of the BW in NYC area where I live… (In NYC, obviously people are not friendly upfront, and for good reason)… I simply learn from other people's relationships with BW… & multiple perspectives… I'll leave it at that…

    It’s not that you’re saying you prefer white women because you think they are prettier, etc. You are saying you prefer them because they are NOT black women and that’s not a good thing. Don’t run to one thing to escape another. It makes me think that your issues with black women are deeper than just dating. Take the emphasis off of women and what they can do for you. Think more about yourself, who you are, what you can offer and what you need. It seems like you’re the one with the issues. We all have issues so it’s not a diss but you seem angry.

    I prefer white women because on average they are EASIER to deal with then black women…

    Let's get into my anger… cause that was the best point you made so far…

    – I'm angry because I cannot be "straightforward" with BW, I have to play games and pay for that the last dude did…

    – I'm angry because BW go out of their way to pick sorry a** men & have babies by these men & expect ME so help take care of their child (basically waste)

    – I'm angry because BW expect BM to accept low quality BW because she is black and has a P*ssy

    – I'm angry because women make BS complaints about men & you it is them that is causing most of the problems in BC…

    – I'm angry because women don't want to compete for the men they want, but get mad when they are unhappy about their dating life (But you will compete for a job, in the classroom, & other areas of life…)

    – I'm angry because CHARACTER is not a high priority with alot of BW… but then wonder why their dating life is f*cked up (& blame men for it)

    I'm sure I have a few more reasons… But I feel like my anger is justified… For Law of Attraction reasons, I can't hold on to this anger… Movin' on…

    NOW…lemme jump outta big sister mode and get in loyal friend mode. YOU DON’T KNOW KEISHA BROWN. I don’t care about your gchat sessions, photos etc. I’m not going to tag team you because she can stick up for herself. I will say this: You most certainly will play yourself if you’re dissing Black women in the open while trying to holla at them on the sly. I would have called you out too. Don’t get defensive cause you know you’re wrong for that. And just because she didn’t like it, doesn’t mean that she can’t handle the truth or is any less real. All it means is she caught you talking out the side of your neck and called you on it. Is that why you like white women? So they won’t call you on your sh*t? Well, I hate to bust your bubble but any woman will call you on it.

    As far as Keisha is concerned… she has a thing call inalienable rights, she can feel however she pleases, I still got love for her, and all of that… If she is not one of the majority of BW I am talking about, then it shouldn't be no problems… Y'all want to be part of your BS Sistahood and stick up for sorry a** BW (where as we men SEPERATE OURSELVES from sorry a** black men), but when BM are not checking for you then you want to be treated like an individual… I can't tell the difference between Rhonda Jenkins & Michelle Obama they defend each other, & subscibe to similar philospohies…

    whereas upstanding black men DO NOT stick up for thugs bad behavior…

    And again… I wanted to see some pics, I was real about that…

    and I think the WW are to deal with as far as mentality is concern, I take mentality over beauty anyday… And I was real about that…

    So please tell me where I was two-faced…

    AND I hope, pray that you have been with atleast 1 white woman. You better not be one of them black men who trash talk black women but have never been with any woman a white woman a day in your life.

    Hmmm… you almost checkmated me there… But I have dated a white woman… 2003 [14 years old] (I almost forgot) her name was Dorothy (I think I was the reason she turned lesbian…) & I ended up leaving her for a girl named Destiny (who is a single black mother & I allowed her to wreak havoc on my heart, I take responsibility for that)

    Dorothy's issues weren't Strong & Independent ones, but she did have her issues… And I found Destiny more attractive…

    1. Oh, BTW… (I was supposed to twitter you) I read the Remix of Linc post, & I enjoy the way you & Muze handled LABlades… I love the classiness… So… I have to credit, where credit is due…

    2. While I was food shopping today, I remember another white girl named Katie (she lived in Long Beach…), she contacted me on FB, and we took it from there…

      And pretty much our relationship consisted of oral s*x (her mouth, my c*ck)… Her P*ssy was tight so i had a hard time penetrating her (I didn't succeed…)

      The reason why she & I fell out was that she wanted me to be her boyfriend & I wasn't to sleep with other women & I lost access to her oral skills (That is what I get for keepin' it 100 with women, Yes I'm looking at you @Starita…)

      But she would have made a GREAT girlfriend (yea, she was a bit of a doormat…)

      WW may have their issues, but I have positive associations with them… It Is What It Is…

    3. "I prefer white women because on average they are EASIER to deal with then black women…"

      are you basing this off your experience dating in NYC? or are you basing this off the experiences of others who have dated in NYC/US?

      furthermore, how many women have you actually had a relationship with?

    4. In response to the young man who has had sex his last sexual experiences with black women. You should not be having sex at all if you are not married. Sex and relationships are not really a color thing.
      This is a morality issue. What ever happened to morals and decency? There has always been and still is a double standard in the black community when it comes to women and men. It's ok for the black man to run around and have sex with different women. But when the black woman does it,
      she's a disgrace. Let's stop the double standard in our community. Start having some morals. Black women, if he is not willing to put a ring on your finger and say I do, don't give him the goodies. Black men, if you are not able to provide and take care of a family, then don't be trying to hollar. Enough said.

  34. Yeah some people find it hard when they start swinging their bits about and other people muscle in on the game. Fair enough.

    Some of the comments have been a bit redundant. We need to have a session about who or what is an authentic "BLACK" man. Whatever that is when he is at home.

    I didn't have much to say on the BW/WW debate because well , it's just stoopido !

    Enjoyed reading the comments though.

    If you ain't feeling the topic it must be ok to post and say it's
    Whack? I was listening to this group called NWA singing straight out of Compton,this morning, and I swear I started to feel "BLACK"!!!!!!

  35. My boy Adonis clearly runs this. But to the main topic I cosign with the writer. White Women really aren't that easy. We can't stereotype all Black Women as ratchets, and we should not stereotype all White Women as the becky's who get drunk at parties and give out BJ's. Some of my good friends are WW who keep that thing on lock, others like to do blow and kiss girls, that's life, no individual is the same.

  36. “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results”.

    ~ Albert Einstein

    [e.g. Isn’t it just insane that people still take issue with inter-racial marriage when a bi-racial man holds the highest office in our country?]

    First, if indeed I had been fortunate enough to walk in the shadow of Malcolm I’d personally consider it a great honor and a privilege. And if you think 30 is old, you might want to take a look around (#masta ace] at the demographics on your own site. I think the numbers might surprise you. But then again, judging by the hot garbage you post I’m certain a) you don’t really do the numbers thing; b) you’re in no danger of becoming a MENSA candidate anytime soon.

    See, the other contributors to this site, your more erudite peers made a promise to its readers that this year would be different. This year we’d try to do better and they’d lead by example. And when I read that, it was literally like we all took that collective walk across the stage, got our degrees and were set to embark upon the rigors of grad school. And then you came……and just dragged us all back to Pre-K.

    Last time I checked, I lived in a country where I had the right to express my views and opinions freely. If you don’t like it or can’t handle criticism maybe it’s you who need to shut the eff up. Or at least leave the more intelligent discourse to those better qualified at SBM. [pretty much everyone not named RCLS]

    In closing, I’d actually like to thank you. I’m no different than many readers in that while I’m here, I have multiple windows, screens, folders up on my monitors and I’m multi-tasking as I go. Typically, I have to make judgment calls about which items really deserve my full attention and which get a cursory look over. I usually skim the header, the author, the article and the first few comments before coming out of lurker mode and commenting. And now that it’s been confirmed that you’re clearly the weakest writer of the bunch, I’ll know ahead of time to skip anything signed by RCLS….

    1. *sigh*

      You again…

      First off, man up. You opened the door kind sir. I never have a problem with people taking issue with my point of view. You however, decide to get personal, which is never a problem for me. But don't come back here with sour grapes like I'm attempting to trample all over your constitutional rights. If you don't want to be shot at, don't shoot. Just because I'm a writer, don't think you can just slick talk and not get called out on it, and if that's what "writers" are supposed to do, then sh*t, I ain't the one.

      So you think I'm stupid? Well, you sir are entitled to your opinion, but opinions and a*sholes seldom differ…at some point they end up on your blog whether you like it or not. This blog is strictly entertainment, so if you don't like how I present my form of entertainment, so be it. The truth is, you and I probably have nothing in common, so it's no surprise nothing I say resonates with you. I'm sorry if my choice of verbiage doesn't meet your standards.

      *sigh*

      There are a million horribly sarcastic and backhanded things I could type right now, but quite frankly Edward, you aren't worth the effort. So how bout this…we agree to disagree, you promise never to read any my posts anymore, and I promise I'll study up for that MENSA thing you were talking about, so maybe one day you'll like me, because God knows I'm just dying for the validation.

      *sigh*

  37. “I prefer white women because on average they are EASIER to deal with then black women…”

    Nice to be quoted once in a while… You are making uncomfortable PP, But that is a GOOD thing…

    are you basing this off your experience dating in NYC? or are you basing this off the experiences of others who have dated in NYC/US?

    Both…

    furthermore, how many women have you actually had a relationship with?

    Elaborate on the word "relationship", there are women I have sexed, women I dated but never slept with… But on some Boyfriend & Girlfriend tip (Maria, Destiny, Nicole, Dorothy, Katie) 5 that I remember… 5…

    Where are going with this Brother Pete

    1. i dunno. i'm not a relationship expert, and i really don't have enough life experiences to be giving anyone advice, or even a 1/2way expert opinion…

      but 5…at your age…is what's up. but, at the same time…you're in the most populus city in the nation. it just seems like you're uneccessarily painting a broad brush and it doesn't help the situation…right here. and i know you say "If it don't apply, let it fly"…but to the females that are reading this, the regulars, i don't think any of this applies to them.

      and i know. Trust me, i know of what you speak. And to me, it seems like you care, but you coming at folks the wrong way, that's all. I feel there's a sincere way to be honest, without being insensitive to the reader. Not everyone can take "the truth" at the same dosage you can.

      right now, i'm starting to sound like i'm repeating what i type, and i'm not someone to convince you that your experiences ain't real. But just be cool homie. i know that females like to live in their 20s when they should be building/bonding with you, but you know what, so do males. And not to take shots, but what you wrote up there 'bout your encounters with the opposite sex, seems you like living too. So just be cool man.

      1. i dunno. i’m not a relationship expert, and i really don’t have enough life experiences to be giving anyone advice, or even a 1/2way expert opinion…

        Thanks for the preface…

        but 5…at your age…is what’s up. but, at the same time…you’re in the most populus city in the nation. it just seems like you’re uneccessarily painting a broad brush and it doesn’t help the situation…right here. and i know you say “If it don’t apply, let it fly”…but to the females that are reading this, the regulars, i don’t think any of this applies to them.

        Co-Sign… But Black Women Like To Blindly Defend Each Other, Even If The BW is in the WRONG…

        and i know. Trust me, i know of what you speak. And to me, it seems like you care, but you coming at folks the wrong way, that’s all.

        I'm glad I am not the only one who see this… BW will make you think you are crazy

        I feel there’s a sincere way to be honest, without being insensitive to the reader. Not everyone can take “the truth” at the same dosage you can.

        BW cannot be checked… no matter how you say it… Only Tracy McMillan & Max-Logic can give sincere criticism to BW & not get flamed…

        IDGAF what BW's honesty threshold is, I hold all the cards & so do all the other TIRED, FED UP BM…

        right now, i’m starting to sound like i’m repeating what i type, and i’m not someone to convince you that your experiences ain’t real. But just be cool homie. i know that females like to live in their 20s when they should be building/bonding with you, but you know what, so do males. And not to take shots, but what you wrote up there ’bout your encounters with the opposite sex, seems you like living too. So just be cool man.

        I will acknowledge there is a double standard with men & women…

        It is the women who complain about the quality of men (but don't take responsibility for the MEN they raised)

        It is the women who stress about marriage (but expect the men to deal with their children from other men & whorish ways)

        It all starts & ends with women's complaints…

        Now PP, I am told by women that there are no good black men out here… But yet I am still single… (I consider myself an upstanding BM…)

        Because for the men that are of any quality, he has to pay for the last man's mistakes… Black Women can't handle him because he doesn't disrespect her & beat her… Because he is a provider BW try to trap him with a baby (because if it is RAY RAY's baby, it is a loss cause RAY RAY is in jail or an ain't sh*t n*gga), his leadership is being questioned at the door, even though he hasn't done anything to prove he isn't worthy… When I size sh*t up, I come to the realization that MOST black women don't want "good" black men… They want to run sh*t (Strong & Independent), but when sh*t goes wrong they blame BM

        They just get a secondary payoff for complaining… (BTW, I am referring to the AMERICAN BLACK FEMALE)…

        Good Post

  38. For the black men who date outside of their race its not an issue. It only becomes an issue when their reason for dating outside of they're race isn't because of preference but because black women are horribly flawed and not worthy. There is nothing wrong with black men dating outside of their race but don't bash black women while doing it.

    As far as the "easy" stereotype goes…all races have women with attitudes (all women have it in them), all races have EASY women…I don't understand why the "easy white girl" stereotype is still around. Everybody is doing everybody nowadays.

  39. I honestly could care less about the opinions of a moronic 23 yr old. This topic is so tired. Who gives a damn?! *Goes to check fares on nonstop flights to the Netherlands *

    1. Bless you Ms. Katt… I am still 22, don't rush me…

      Enjoy your trip to the Netherlands… I hope you find the love of your life AND you get f*cked by two to three guys simultaneously… #TeamDP, Every woman needs to know what more than one pen*s inside her feels like…

      Bless you… Thanks for playing

  40. "For the black men who date outside of their race its not an issue. It only becomes an issue when their reason for dating outside of they’re race isn’t because of preference but because black women are horribly flawed and not worthy." (divakattgurl)

    I've been thinking about this phrase and all variations thereof. I believe that "the reason" behind these relationships… they don't really matter because at the end of the day, that man is still in that interracial relationship.

    If tomorrow, 90% of all Asian-American men were to suddenly marry hordes of White women despite being "equal-opportunity daters"… do you think that the average Asian woman will empathize after knowing the reasons for these IRR's have nothing to do with them?

    No. This is universal.

    So, reasons shouldn't matter because the "ends" are the same regardless.

    Adonis, I'm 24 and I also live in NYC. When I read your comments, I understand why you feel the way that you feel. In the context of our age group, I'd say it's a pretty normal train of thought… but that's because we have a lot more of life to experience.

    When you say "Black women", it isn't just… "Black women", right? We have African-American women. African women. Women from the Islands, and across the pond in the UK.

    The differences between African women and African-American women, alone, seem immense everytime I meet a Nicole …and an Akosua. So, this is all an issue of perception. It's not that White women are easier than Black women, only that it's how you perceive the two.

    There's nothing wrong with that because these thoughts are shaped by our experiences. But, it's important to realize that these are, indeed, perceptions and not definitives. You know?

    1. “For the black men who date outside of their race its not an issue. It only becomes an issue when their reason for dating outside of they’re race isn’t because of preference but because black women are horribly flawed and not worthy.” (divakattgurl)

      When I read this, the first thing I thought was is that SHE ACKNOWLEDGED that black women are not flawed, DEEPLY flawed… It is one thing to be chubby, but an entirely different thing if you are obese… You have fallen into temptation & you JUST DON'T CARE… Fine With Me

      I’ve been thinking about this phrase and all variations thereof. I believe that “the reason” behind these relationships… they don’t really matter because at the end of the day, that man is still in that interracial relationship.

      Very True…

      If tomorrow, 90% of all Asian-American men were to suddenly marry hordes of White women despite being “equal-opportunity daters”… do you think that the average Asian woman will empathize after knowing the reasons for these IRR’s have nothing to do with them?

      probably not

      No. This is universal.

      So, reasons shouldn’t matter because the “ends” are the same regardless.

      Adonis, I’m 24 and I also live in NYC. When I read your comments, I understand why you feel the way that you feel. In the context of our age group, I’d say it’s a pretty normal train of thought… but that’s because we have a lot more of life to experience.

      When you say “Black women”, it isn’t just… “Black women”, right? We have African-American women. African women. Women from the Islands, and across the pond in the UK.

      African American Women (in NYC), I only address the group that I make my first choice in dating… But this seems to cross state & city lines though… Sad, but True

      The differences between African women and African-American women, alone, seem immense everytime I meet a Nicole …and an Akosua. So, this is all an issue of perception. It’s not that White women are easier than Black women, only that it’s how you perceive the two.

      There’s nothing wrong with that because these thoughts are shaped by our experiences. But, it’s important to realize that these are, indeed, perceptions and not definitives. You know?

      There are no definitives… I just believe that out 10 black women I meet, one would probably make a good partner & wife for most men… That is what upsets me…

      & AGAIN, the women KNOW that they are effed up… But they rather be single than make the changes… That is SOME mental sh*t…

      So again… I rather deal with WW issues than BW issues… They are just easier to deal with from a my perspective…

      Good Post Bro…

  41. As a women I beleive that all women are a like in many ways being that i am most peoples favorite racist but have many associations with all nationalities and have found that when black men date black women thay do not treat us like princesses and angels like thay do women outside that race. And women outside of the race have told me there black men does this and that. But you treat the any women form similiar situations a certain way rather they are black white or asian will pretty much do the same thing. I have catered to the black man and did the same things they say that they marry and date other nationalities for, and i could not even get a thank you for the dinner and or a call back. I have come to the conclusion that willie lynch has been succesful with his plan. I am independent because i have to. When i really want to be in submission to a faithful husband be pregnant and barefoot and in love, i dont even care if we are raising our kids in a one bedroom as long as he loves me and i love him and the kids see the same thing. But i have found that black men hate us and think we r not good enough for hime when he actually becomes succesful. When you love the black man when he is struggling he thinks something is wrong with u Loving him, When you get with him and he has money u r a golddigga, But the problem is no of us has been taught true love therfore we blame eachoter and ourselves for our hurt when all we have to do is be real and teach each other and understand most of us do not know what we are doing i know i dont somtimes and it makes me nervous.

    1. Some of what you said is true, but I will say this…

      It is amazing how when women support men, they support the WRONG kind of men…

      & when they finally get a Good Black Man that treats them well, and thinks of world of them… They dog them out…

      It seems like to me that you are attracted to assh*les… No problem… That is your thing… I'll leave it at that…

      1. I see everything you’re talking about Adonis. As a fellow “non-hood” black guy who has hobbies (most black women don’t think hobbies are “normal”), speaks articulately, and routinely gets passed over for a proto-simian who can barely string 2 words together, can’t wear his pants properly or be in one spot without spitting on the ground every 2 minutes, I’m right there with you. Black women claim they want the best, then they go and scrape the bottom of the barrel for men they have to support like overgrown adopted children…but none of that support would go to a guy who has his act together. Just scorn. Someone here said “Regardless of your race ALL women should be raised to be strong because weak women create weak children (men and women).” What I’m seeing is these women who call themselves “strong” are alone, with children born out of wedlock, raising daughters who will do the same (looks like weakness to me. I don’t know what women think it is), and boys who will be the irresponsible, usually criminal thugs (weak, except to those that believe a black man isn’t a REAL man unless he’s of a criminal element…usually those raised by MTV and hip-hop in the stead of a father) who contribute to their own gender’s “no good men out there/men need to step their game up” and black men’s “irresponsible man-boys are getting all the women but decent men get ignored, then blamed for said men’s behavior and for seeking alternatives in other races who are not so hung up on the hip-hop image of cartoonish hypermasculinity” (which is valid, but denied by “strong independent women” as whining). Women, when you complain about men…remember: nobody forced you to choose losers. You did that all on your own, looking for “Swagger”, and passing up decent guys cus they had no “game”. Think about that term for a second: Game. (that’s what people now call Swagger). It’s FALSE behavior. That is a dude pretending to be something he’s not in order to trick you into bed with him…evidenced by women being used and dumped by dudes with “Swagger”, and raising more kids out of wedlock while this dude (who, by the way, is basically homeless. He lives with the naive women who take him in, and continues to run game on OTHER women while he’s living with one. He gets kicked out, no prob. He has at least 2 other naive swagger-seeking-suckers he’s having sex with that he can go lay up on) moves on to cohabitate, inseminate, move to another woman’s place and repeat the cycle again and again. Forget Swagger. Look for RESPECT, and don’t turn your nose up at a dude who treats you with nothing but. That isn’t “weak/lame” like a lot of black women think. That’s something you should be LOOKING for in a man…unless you plan on being strong and single with kids.

  42. As a white woman who has only dated black men I can assure you that I am not "easy". White women and men what to know why some white women only date black men. I get asked all of the sterotypical questions about the differences between black men and white men. I have heard every question such as "Are black men better in bed" My answer "I wouldn't know, I've never been with a white man." Another good one "Is it true what they say… "Once you go black you never go back." My answer "I never went white." Some white people think that all white women who date black men are "easy" or "trashy" and that the the black men that date white women are trying to steal all the white women from white men. So this debate sees no race.

    I have had a few white men cruse me out when I told them that I only date black men. I have had white women look at me crazy. I had two black women call me a snow bunny at the club one night. I have even been called a "N**** lover" to my face and behind by back. One of my dad's brother's and his wife will not even speak to me because I have 2 biracial daughters. So to say that white women are "easy" or "passive" is wrong. I have to be a strong person with a very strong personality to deal with the junk that has been dished out to me because I prefer black men. I remember having it out with my dad one night while I was in middle school because he over head me say that Theo on the Cosby show was cute. I never remember thinking to myself… you know what I think I am only going to like black men. I grew up around just as many white people as I did black people so in my case it can't be conditioning. I can't even explain why I prefer black men to white men. All I know is that I am more attracted to black men. I always have been.

    I have never understood why it really matters who another person choses to date and/or love anyway. The Supreme Court handed down the decision that led to making Interacial marriages legal on June 12, 1967. Why would we still be debating interacial couples more that 40 years later. Be yourself, love who you want to love and don't worry about how other people feel about your relationship.

    1. I'm Australian residing in Greece.Bottom line Africans here do not work. They make money from corrupting others and use white women as alibis and business partners. We are tolerant and accepting of others, but these women are stupid in their own country. I would never ever date an African, they have no morals or ethics. They were raised poorly! 

  43. If white women love spreading their legs for Black Men, what the hell do you think?

    Black guys, we got it easy. It's like we're the kings of men.

  44. Black woman don't know how to treat their men right. I'm white and will do ANYTHINK for a black man phon Los gatos 439-8268

  45. Back in the day, I think almost all black men dated only black women. And they would marry a black woman. However, if the black man became famous or became wealthy or both and his first marriage did not go well, then the second time around he felt that with money and fame he could more easily attract a white woman. Case in point, OJ Simpson married a black woman, then after he became famous and divorced, he married a white woman. Not sure, but I am guessing that after he and Nicole Brown Simpson divorced, he would only date white women.

  46. Most white women are nymphos.You can have a 20" & they still cheat if you're going out with them.Allot of young ones get dumbed down into hip hop & pop culture.And go off stereotypes about black men's cocks.That's why their so easy.Sad but true

    1. You have no idea what you are saying when you stereotype white women as being nymphos. The bottom line is White women tend to have healthier self esteem which contributes to superior social skills. Superior social skills allow them to have more success at navigating relationships as well as exploring men and sexuality. This truth leads to misconceptions that white women are easier and nymphos when in fact, as a whole or in general, they are not. Most black women on the contrary, suffer with self esteem issues and have far more stressors to deal with than their white female counterparts.

    2. I'm Australian residing in Greece. Bottom line Africans here do not work. They make money from corrupting others and use white women as alibis and business partners. We are tolerant and accepting of others, but women are stupid in their own country. I would never ever date an African, they have no morals or ethics. They were raised poorly!

  47. white women are not easy unless yr either A well of or B good looking well built and EXTREMELY well endowed and have ten tons of macho swagger charm and non sense aka a streotypical black dude trust me if u didnt have swag and a huge one white women wouldnt be that into u maybe some but no more than anyone else

    1. White women like black men when they have money To have kids by him and take their money and some of you white women talk down about a black women Anx why would any white women get with a black men that disrespect his own women and then disrespect a white women and if he does that to his own he will do it to a white women as well?

  48. Well I think black women don’t like White women going with black men is because they disrespect their own women. And most black men hang around the trashy black women, they don’t hang around the intelligent ones. and the most part is some of you black men have attitude But they don’t want to talk about them they want to cause pain to black women. But the white women doesnt really see that way .

  49. Well I think black women don’t like White women going with black men is because they disrespect their own women. And most black men hang around the trashy black women, they don’t hang around the intelligent ones. and the most part is some of you black men have attitude But they don’t want to talk about them they want to cause pain to black women. But the white women doesnt really see that way and I think white women are really happy because they don’t want black women to have their own black men. And white women are easy I don’t care what you say about it it’s the truth white women try’s to look like black women to get attention from black men and white women where fake nails, weve, and white women do have attitudes like black women . So some of you ignorant black guys out there need to know that.

  50. I think white women who are pretty and sexy are anything but easy for a black man. White women have certain mannerisms and habits that set them apart or different from black women. Many times I have been attracted to white women my whole life but I also had dated black women as well. Disrespect is not what I want to do to black women it is simply a matter of personal preference for me and what features in a woman that I am attracted to. I have to admit that the sex is great with white women compared to black women but that varies depending on the experience of black men. Any white woman worth having is never going to be easy for any black man and I don't know why many black men think white women are easy.

  51. I realise that most of the responses here seem to be from black women who feel that the comment "white women are easier" disrespects them, however as a white women I feel this is more an insult to myself than to a black woman. Personally I do not want a man to be with me because he believes I'm more generous with my money or "s**k d**k. If I'm with a man its because I genuinely care for him and would hope he felt the same about me. I'd rather a man see me as high maintenance and love me regardless than simply stay because he feels he gets a free ride! All of this white women will do anything for a man is B.S. I think any woman (of any colour) will do anything for someone they love and trust.

  52. I have had 2 girlfriends in my life, a black girl and a white girl. I'm not trying to sum all women of either race when I say this it just happens to be my personal experience with the two women.

    The black girl: slept around, was loud and rude during arguments, was emotionally and physically abusive (she was really lucky i didn't fight back)

    The white girl: loving, caring, listens to me, cooperates

    Before being in this relationship I never beleived the white girl myth but..here I am. I'm sure all black women aren't like that and by no means are all white women like that, but for me the transition is unreal.

  53. Ladies, Gents….. I find the entire argument to be funny. I am a white guy and I find that there are crazy women in all "races". It would literally be impossible to explain the number of crazy scenarios I have run into with each and every "race" of women. There is one common factor that I have learned to avoid and that is low class. If the girl you are dating has zero class which means she talks super loud in public, is the type of girl that would burp at a nice restaurant is inconsiderate in any manner, does your girl wear sweats and flip flops to shop? Does she wear sweats that say Juicy across the a$$? Does she read books? Can she read? Does she watch the news? ENGLISH MOTHER F**cker DO YOU SPEAK IT?!?!?! Does she have goals? Does she define collecting unemployment as a plus? Does she have a problem keeping her mouth shut? All of these things can be applied and should be considered when dating a woman of ANY "race". I love all women, but if I will leave a low class girl standing on the curb at a stop light if she proves herself to be too hard, or too "strong" or whatever she thinks makes her worthy of making herself a burden upon me. Well, that is my two cents. Thank you for listening.

  54. I am a white woman who has dated white and black men, although lately I find myself more attracted to black men. But I have to say that these generalizations of white girls being easier, either sexually or degree of difficulty to deal with, really pisses me the eff off!!!! I am not easy, in either way. I am an attractive, intelligent, confident WW, who happens to be attracted to BM's, I don't stand for any kind of shit from ANY guy! I'm not dating BM's to piss off BW, or to piss off WM's, I'm not dating inter racially to piss off anyone, I'm not doing it for any other reason, other than I can't help who I'm atttracted to. To me it's simply a case of opposites attract….. I have to say that the BM's I've dated have dated both WW and BW, and they've had no chip on their shoulder concerning BW, they have just been attracted to attractive women, regardless of their color, and that should be it!!!! Plain and simple. Having said that, people who put down their own race are sad, all comes from generalizing too much. You need to take people as you find them, look at the individual…….

  55. I m black guy I live in africa precisely in south africa I love my black sisters but to be honest
    it is more easy to communicate withe a white girls in general no drama no noise
    they are easy going they listen I live in a country where there is a lot of both f them but im mostly succesful withe white girls I still find black girls better looking but my girlfriend experience was just wonderful withe each white girl that have been withe

    now people go to far by saying they are easier that is not true in fact its easier to get laid withe black girls in general I might be wrong
    the main difference is the way they communicate and the way they handle situations
    the black lady have the tendency of being more aggressive
    and really I dnt need a strong black lady
    strong black = me being stressed = her being aggressive
    strong white woman = me less stressed = her not aggressive

  56. I m black guy I live in africa precisely in south africa I love my black sisters but to be honest
    it is more easy to communicate withe a white girls in general no drama no noise
    they are easy going they listen I live in a country where there is a lot of both f them but im mostly succesful withe white girls I still find black girls better looking but my girlfriend experience was just wonderful withe each white girl that have been withe

    now people go to far by saying they are easier that is not true in fact its easier to get laid withe black girls in general I might be wrong
    the main difference is the way they communicate and the way they handle situations
    the black lady have the tendency of being more aggressive
    and really I dnt need a strong black lady
    strong black = me being stressed = her being aggressive
    strong white woman = me less stressed = her not aggressive

  57. OKAY REALLY LETS QUIT ALL THE BULLSHIT AND TELL IT LIKE IT IS. IT'S NOT THAT WHITE WOMEN ARE EASY BUT THE FEW WHITE WOMEN WHO DO MESS WITH BLACK MEN ARE DEFINITELY "EASY" BECAUSE THEY MESS WITH "EVEN" BLACK MEN. A WHITE MAN HAS A MUCH EASIER CHANCE GETTING A BLACK WOMAN THAN A BLACK MAN GETTING A WHITE GIRL. THE DIFFERENCE IS A BLACK WOMAN CAN STILL ATTRACT BLACK MEN AFTER BEING WITH A WHITE MAN. A WHITE WOMAN IS UNDESIRABLE TO WHITE MEN AFTER BEING WITH A BLACK MAN. ACTUALLY IT IS USUALLY "BECAUSE" WHITE MEN DON'T LIKE A WHITE WOMAN, THAT SHE WILL SETTLE FOR A BLACK MAN.

  58. Hi , this happened today. I was in Wal-Mart looking for a box of hair color, when this really white woman with really bleached blond hair stopped a few steps down the aisle from me and said to her white friend " this is where the blacks get their hair stuff; she picked up a box of something and said this must be it, she's got nigger naps. That really bothered me and I told the girl she shouldn't say things like that. That girl looked at me,and with attitude said"I got one at home" I said " I am one , and I didn't like what you said" I am a light brown color, green eyes and I have very curly hair. My father is from Panama, in America he would be considered a black man. I also have a wide noise and full lips. It was hard growing up. I never fit in and I was always asked what I was, made me feel like shit.like all young girls ask me anything just not what are you .My mother didn't have a clue about what to do with my hair. Did I mention that I have a face full of freckles. No matter how much I wish my mother could have helped me with things like my hair; I'm thankful she never said I had nigger nappy hair. A black friend could say that; not a white woman with straight hair. I feel sorry for that one(Black) living in that racist home with that stupid woman. Thanks for letting me vent

  59. Well this is certainly a very excellent reason why many of us good white men are still single today.

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